Hey!
I live in Canada and I'm teen. I've been through a lot of stuff with my friends over the last few years and I always try to give my insight into their problems (sometimes even when they don't really want it lol).
I've realized that over time I have accumulated a lot of questions about moving on, so if you have a question about that, lay it on me!!
I don't think that ratings matter, and that you should choose someone to trust your question with, that will answer it with care, but show you what the world really is and wont sugar coat it.
I hope you guys find my advice helps, hope to talk soon!! :D
Angie
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ok so to start off i like 3 guys alot, 2 are my best friends and the other one is the most popular guy in school. i dont know who i should go after and what to do.
guy A)my best friend for a long time, i've liked him forever but never told him i liked him and he's now going out with one of my best friends. he's the type of person that will always be there and just sit and listen and say some sort of quirky comment to cheer you up. me and him have a very complicated relationship. he's very flirty with me when his girlfriend isnt around and has smacked my ass a couple of times. and at parties he'll sit on me and be all flirty with me but he's always just joking around. his girlfriend knows he flirts with me sometimes but she knows its just a joke so shes ok with it. we tell each other "i love you" but just as friends. recently i told the guy that i liked him for a long time but i told him i stopped liking him when he started going out with his girlfriend, but that was a lie. i dont know if i should tell him i like him. if i do im affraid things wont be the same between us.
guy B) another one of my best friends. he's kind of a man whore that has never got any real action but he's currently looking for a friend with benefits. i dont want to be his friend with benefits although i have thought about it. he asks me what i think of girls that he has started talking to and took me on the ski lift for the first time so i wouldnt get scared (im scared of heights) and he stayed on the bunny hill with me the whole day even though he is a really good skiier. he's a really good person inside but he has girl problems. i told him i liked him about 3 months ago but i think he forgot. at parties he'll pay full attention to me and will flirt with me the whole time but in school we're just back to friends. i dont know how i should get him to realize that i still like him becasue flirting isnt working.
guy C) the guy would be my dream boyfriend. he has the perfect looks, funny personality, and same intrests as me. but he only talks to me for about 5 minutes a day. he has "his girls" they're not friends with benefits but he pays a ton of attention to them. i want to make myself stand out because i would really love to go out with him. but he's also a grade above me (but we have alot of classes together) and i dont know if he has an age issue. but how do i keep a conversation going with this guy and stand out from his girls (link)
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Wow you have some guy problems now don't you? It seems like you're picking guys who are going to be hard to get.
I'd probably stay away from guy a, because he has a girlfriend. Wait things out though, and see what happens. Guys tend to flirt with girls to make themselves look cool, so don't take his flirting the wrong way. He might just be trying to make himslef look better than he really is.
Then theres guy b, he only wants friends with benifits right? well I think you know as well as I do that friends with benifits is a bad idea. It's the perfect way for guys to get what they want out of a girl without having to make a commitment. You don't want that right? You want a boyfriend so unless he's willing to commit, don't go after him,
Lastly guy c, well he soudns like a player, and I don't know if you want that either.
You seem to be finding guys for some of the right reasons (like the first two guys personalities) but it also seems like you are letting their looks get in the way of how their personalities work with yours. I think you should try and wait until something changes, and I don't think you should date guy C because he seems to only liek girls who are really pretty, and you should date someone who likes you for who you are, not just how you look.
I'm sure you have an awesome personality and it isnt right to let yourself fall to a standard where all you want is a relationship with someone who wants someone hot to take advantage of.
I think you should take a few weeks where you just look at every guy in a different way. Take the guy who sits next to you in math class, why would you want to go out with him? Why wouldn't you? Then think about those reasons and figure out whether you are superficial and just want a boyfriend for all of the wrong reasons. But if you realize that it wouldnt be the end of the world if that nice guy next to you, who has a great sense of humor and a great smile but isn't the most popular guy at school, asked you out.
I think that you should keep a close check on whats going on in your head. You don't want your looks (or your guys looks to go to your head) and you want to date guys who will treat you right and think only of how awesome you are.
but I cant decide who you date, so you need to keep in mind what you look for in a guy and figure out what is important to you. Good luck, hope you find the guy of your dreams!
Love,'
Angie91
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thaks for taking the time to write so much, you had said to look at the guys who sits next to you in math class, well thats guy C but im sure you werent expecting that. i understand all of you points and completely appreciate you answering my question
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