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I'm 17 and my boyfriend is 20. (I'm a girl by the way)We've been together for about 4 1/2 months and I love him so much. I think i'm ready to take the next step with him, and by that I mean sex. I'm a virgin still and he knows that, so he's never pressured me into doing anything with him I wasn't ready for. He's been really sweet and understanding.However I can also tell it's hard for him. I'm kind of the first girl he's really commited to, he used to be ...I don't know how to put it, a player. Although he never pressures me to have sex with him I can tell he's been getting kind of frustrated. I mean when things get to intimate (I'll put it that way) I'll just stop so things don't escalate further than I want to go. I want to take the next step with him but i'm scared, for more than one reason. I'm scared that he'll compare me to other girls or leave me for someone more experianced if I do. He's been with tons of girls. I'v had 4 or 5 boyfriends, but I never once thought of having sex with them. It wasn't serious enough. I'm afraid that the morning after things will be wierd and akward, and i'm also scared that it will hurt. How much does it hurt when you first have sex? Should I talk to him. Is 4 months to soon to be thinking about sleeping with another person. I'm really confused on what to do here if you can't already tell. Please help! (link)
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PLEASE be sure he gets tested for STI's first.
I know a first love is hard, and I know waiting is hard, and I'm proud you stuck it out for nearly 5 months.
But look, first off, even if you agree to have sex, it's considered "statutory rape" by most state laws. Disregarding even this, you said he has a reputation for being a player. If you're the first girl he's committed to thats GREAT and I'm glad for both of you - but you can't trust he's been careful with every girl, or that every girl was honest with him about her own past. Please be sure before you give your virginity to him that he gets tested for STD's first. Don't let your first sexual experience be ruined by an irresponsible ex-girlfriend.
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