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Okay, so I'm a 14 year old female. There's this guy in one of my classes, and he's a junior. Since the beginning of the year, he has always paid "special attention" to me, like teasing me and stuff. I even recall a while back in October-ish, I was walking in the hallway afterschool, l and he was with his friend, and he stopped to talk to me for no reason at all. Back then, I thought he was kinda hot but never seriously considered him as a potential bf because a guy 2 years older than me having a crush on ME? The notion was impossible.
But as time went on I noticed more and more hints being dropped by him..for example, he always holds open doors for me and makes a huge scene of it "HERE, [myname], LADIES FIRST!". And when any of his friends try to talk to me, he instantly turns and stares at me. Whenever I talk to HIM, he stares right at me and gves me this huge grin.
Now, he's always like looking at me in class, especially when I talk to any guys. But I don't know if I'm just imagining the signs or if he teases me just to look cool in front of his friends. Or maybe he's just a friendly guy.
Oh, let me add some more details about us, I guess. I gave him a present over christmas break (it was just a card lol) and he seemed to really like it, he had this big smile on his face. And he's always telling me how nice I look. Also, I'm the girl he talks most to in class (this isn't much though, because there arent a lot of other girls in the class and all the girls are freshmen) I expect HIM to tell ME if he likes me or not, because he's a junior, and if I say no to him (which I wouldnt), it shouldnt be a big blow to his ego. But he keeps on dropping hints that he likes me as something..more. That's where I'm getting confused. Luckily there's a winter formal coming up on the 9th that he can ask me to AND valentine's day 5 days later. Think I should ask him to the dance?
oh and there was also this time in December, when we had free time in class and him and his friends were talking about THE basketball game of the season, and suddenly the guy turned to me and asked me if I was going. I told him I wasn't, and he asked, "why not?" Of course, me being STUPID and MISSING the hint, I said "i'm kinda busy," when I really wasn't (i was completely and totally free!!), because I was embarassed at being singled out like that. If i were smart i would've said "no, because I can't get a ride". and he mightve invited me to come. sorry it's so long T_T (link)
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first off,its okay,i like long questions,because they give me more info to help you (:. Anyways, have you ever met him befor in the past (befor the beginning of the year?) because if you have,then maybe he thinks of you as a good friend. But it deffinatly seems like he wants you to notice him. You want to know if this is just an act or not,so i suggest actually talking to him on the phone,i-ms,some place where its just you and him. it'll be uncomfortable though at first. oh,but dont ask to be just you and him in person,because thats for one thing too uncomfortable and another,he could want to take advantge of you. i kinda doubt that though :],maybe check out his reputation. I'd say work your way on becomeing closer to him,cause the best (flirty) friends make the best (flirty) couples. if you only flirt with him a little,kick it up a notch. But dont seem to annoying, just be sweet,and dont let him get his way all the time.Have play fights,you know,what couples would do. Picture yourself and him,do you think you;d make a good couple(obviously yes) Its always good to second guess,because what could be good at first might turn out bad later. Thats why you should move deeper into your friendship. I know im kinda off-topic,i know you asked me if you should ask him to the dance,but this will help you so much,you'll feel more assured. Personally im the person to flat out go for it,so yeah, i do think you should ask him to the dance. And if things do work out good for you two,it might be a good conversation starter if you mention that you wanted to go to the basket ball game but didnt think he liked you. Oh but be aware, he's 16,and he might think your vulnerable,dont go too fast. when your talking to him with his friends, look at his friends reations,and see if any of them have smiles that signal its all a dare(after your done talking). i really doubt it,but just to be safe. sorry i gave a long answer ;]. good luck
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Thankyou for the advice =] I never thought of the possibility that he could use me...I'll be careful!
Thanks again!
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