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Q: 13/f
I'm in 7th grade and he's in 8th and I used to like him, I used to stare at him a lot but never talked to him. So finally one day I got up the courage to talk to him about how I felt because this girl was sending around rumors that I liked him. I wanted to tell him it wasn't true, but he wouldn't even answer me! He was with his friends, and I don't know if he thought he was cool or something, but I wasn't impressed. Not that he was trying to impress me. So then my friend goes up to him and says "she wants to know where you live!" and i dont really wanna know! hes kinda poor and all and he doesnt live in much of a house, thats what i heard. so he mightve been insulted or thought we were trying to make fun of him. she went up to him out of no where, i tried to stop her. we werent making fun of him, i tried to talk to him but he just wont answer. he always talks to his friends so i know hes not immute or anything. but he acts so mad around me! when i pass him in the hall he just looks away really fast! hes afraid of me, he hides behind his friends, not in a joking way. but when hes not with his friends and he sees me sad or something he looks all guilty, and i dont know im confused. so then my friend went up to him and said "youre a disgrace to humanity!" as if that was going to help. im sorry that this was really long but thanks for reading this! so anyway he just laughs at us and keeps walking. is there anything i can do and what can i do to make him think im not a stalker? or some horrible person? thanks
This "friend" of yours, who can't mind her own business, is doing you no favors. I hope she has alot of other wonderful qualities, because she doesn't sound like a friend at all from what you've written.
Not all 8th grade boys are interested in being involved in girls. Your "friend" has led this guy to believe that you are interested in him, even though you say you are not.
You could tell him--when he's alone, NOT when he's with his friends(!)--that you want to apologize for your friends' behavior. I think that might help you to get over it, and keep him from trying to avoid you. After that, just say hi when you pass in the halls. If you're not trying to become close to him, keep it friendly but impersonal. gigi

Thanks so much! I really appreciate it.

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I have had what I term a "soap opera life". In other words, I've seen it all. Almost.

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