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Q: There is this boy, with whom I am in extra curricular activities. He is in a younger grade but he is the same age as I am, 16. Many people who do not know him or have seldom met him think he is a nerd-like person. I beg to differ, he is one of the most amazing guys I have ever met. My dad is the coordinator of our extra curricular activity that we are actively involved. He's always joking around with me saying things like 'well, you and (name) seemed very close tonight' or 'I like him, you should invite him over. Oh right you can't because of me...ha ha' . To explain that last comment, my dad is very weird, he thinks everything he says is funny but it's embarrassing. All to say that whenever he throws the comments my way, I join in on everybody else's thoughts and say things like 'Ew, I don't like him' and 'Yea, and what, you like that ugly cashier from the dollar store' (she was not all that pretty) and things like that. I feel really bad afterwards though. I talk to him for hours on end sometimes and I'm guessing that's what gives my dad the impression we're going out. Now for the twist, I love him. I have told him before that I liked him and well he took it in the sense that I liked him as a friend so he replied with 'yea, I like you too, your friendship means allot to me. For a second I thought you meant you like-liked me, that would have been weird.' That's what made the whole situation really awkward for me. Last night we were doing volunteer hours together for this french group of kids. We were watching a movie with them and we were sitting in the back selling popcorn and drinks. After a while business got slow so we sat together and just chilled while he explained this french movie to me. We were eventually like really close together after constant explanations and were like so close I kept getting those 'burst of nervousness' if you know what I mean. Normally when this happens he would pull away almost instantly as we'd touch because it's happened once and well that was the outcome. This time, he didn't and that's what's confusing me. I'm starting to wonder if his feelings for me have changed and that he's to shy to tell me. Is there any indirect way to find out? How do I keep all this nonesense away from my annoying dad? And any other advice is weel appreciated. Thanks =]

You know, my dad is just like yours. I've never appreciated his humor, really, but the funny thing is that other people do, and really like him.
Now, about this guy. With your dad so closely involved with what you two do, he probably is too shy to come right out and admit any feelings he might have for you...much the same as your feeling "awkward". I know your dad would feel pretty self-righteously brilliant if you do this, but I think you should invite him over to your house. If dinner would be too hard to get through, just invite him to come over and hang out, maybe watch a few movies or listen to some music and talk. (Watching movies will give you a reason to turn down the lights. If he doesn't make a move to hold your hand, etc., you can always say something, laugh, and then bring your hand down lightly on the side of his leg.) Just pick a movie that your dad doesn't like! gigi

Rating: 5

well...never thought an answer to this question would make me laugh. Thanks, i could use a laugh today. Thanks again.

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