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Q: Awright, 16/f. Three of my friends and I are starting a band (ska/punk, if it matters), and we've got some huge plans for this. It's a common dream. Music brought us all together and all that stuff. Well, the only problems is that all of these friends are boys who are 19 or older and my mom either doesn't like them or hasn't met them. They're good guys and I know I'm completely safe around them, but I know that my mom wouldn't approve of them because they're punks. It's gotten to the point where I had to lie to be able to hang out with them, telling mom that i had different plans.
How can we make this band work if my mom decides she doesn't want me hanging out with the guys? Or how to I make it so she can meet them and approve without them having to change their tastes? PLease help!
Thanks,
-JJ Girl

well my mom is the same way but she dont dislike them she just worries about what if they really arent safe.maybe your mom feels the same way.
anyways answering your question talk to your mom and tell her how much this means to you and ask if its ok if you invite them over so she can get to know them.Maybe thats all it is and if she just dosent want you to be with them..well i know this might not be the best advice yet ima say it...if this is your dream live it 2 its fullest no matter what! sure your mom will be mad but youll still be her daugther!haha well hope it works out=]

Rating: 5

thanks so much! The fact that you put my dream into consideration really helps =]

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