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Earlier today my dad was yelling at me because I forgot to mention my depression at the Doctor's when I was going there mainly for my ear infection. He yelled at me, and I started to cry because I felt horrible, and then he yelled at me saying that I am just a big cry baby and I am always crying over something stupid! But I can't help it.. I seriously can't. If someone yells at me, or scolds me I cry because I feel so guilty. But I don't want to easily cry anymore! I wanna feel stronger than that (since I am NOW 16!! And I should be acting like an adult) As my dad thinks, I really need to grow up!
But it's hard to not cry since I am sensitive and very emotional, and I am really depressed, so when I am in a sad or depressed state I cry over anything. Maybe it's normal for a teenager girl like me, but some times I feel I am just 'over-doing' it. How can I fix this?
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I don't think there's anything wrong with crying. It's an honest response to how you are feeling, and it's not very supportive of your father to yell at you when you are feeling vulnerable.
If being an 'adult' means bottling up emotions and hiding your feelings, then I say DON'T grow up. I think it takes a lot of courage to experience life as you are - whether that's depressed, afraid, or any other emotion a person may feel.
If you would like to look at the reasons for your depression and frequent crying, counselling might be helpful. It will give you a safe, supportive space to let your feelings out, meaning you might feel more stablised and therefore less likely to cry all the time. Counselling might also give you an opportunity to experience crying in front of someone and only getting kindness in return, allowing you to think more carefully about your relationship with your father.
All in all, I think counselling's fabulous. Your doctor might be able to recommend a counsellor, or you might speak to your school to see if they offer counselling.
I wish you the best.
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