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I've been having chest pain since September. I told my mom about it at the end of September and we decided it was a pulled muscle and nothing to worry about. So I believed it, and after about two weeks the pain went away. Then in the beginning of November I began feeling it again. I was worried that it was something more serious, I told my mom, we decided to see if it would go away again...well it didnt. In the beginning of December I told my mom I wanted a doctors appointment to find out what was wrong and she agreed. Well it is now the end of December and still no appointment. I reminded her again in the middle of the month and she said "oh its still there?", again a couple days later with the same reaction. I've been reminding her every four days now and she still says the same thing. In the meantime, I am being more freaked out about these pains in my chest to the point where I just dont want to go to sleep anymore I'm afraid I'll never wake up! I dont know what to do to get her to schedule this appointment she either "forgets" or "doesnt have time". I would do it myself except I dont know when she'd be available to get off work so its up to her. I try telling her but she doesnt care it seems and I'm going crazy thinking I'm going to die.

So how can I get her to schedule this appointment!?

You don't. You call your regular doctor yourself on Tuesday (I am guessing they will be closed new year's day) and set an appointment. Going by your question, you seem to be old enough to be able to do this. If you get on the phone with them and they do require a parent to confirm the appointment, just put your mom on the phone right away. Since they are already on the phone, she will have to go ahead and set it up. If she tries to get out of it once she is on the phone, the doctor's office will tell her to have you come in just to be on the safe side.

Now, here is what you need to be able to describe when you go to the doctor:
Where exactly is the pain? Upper chest, middle, closer to your stomach?
What does it feel like? Burning, pressure, stabbing, pulling, tension?
On a scale of 1-10, how bad is it? One is like a tiny pin prick and 10 is the worst pain you've felt.
Does it come and go? How frequently? How long does it last?
Did you change diet, medications, or activities around the time the pain started?

I have had similar pain and it turned out to be more stomach related even though I initially felt it in my chest. There are many things that can cause pain and answering those questions can help determine what tests and treatments are needed. Write them down and make sure you know the answers. Once you are in the doctor's office, these things will slip your mind. It is just how things work.

The next thing to do is to relax. It could be getting worse because you are worried about it. I know it is almost impossible to not stress over it, but it is important to try. Once you have an appointment, remind yourself that it will be taken care of soon and you don't need to worry anymore.

Good luck, and I hope you feel better soon!

EDITED TO ADD:
The other person giving advice is right. They won't treat you without consent from a parent or guardian. But that doesn't mean you can't call to get the process started. Your mom will also realize how important it is to you if you make the call to the doctor.

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(Rating: 5) Thanks for the help, and for telling me what I should be telling the doctors. Thats even more than I asked for, so really, thanks!!
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