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My dad has yelled and cussed since I was born. For example, last night his sister called and I went over to him and I had the phone in my hand. I said, "Dad? Do you want to talk to your sister? Here's the phone." And he ignored me, so I put it down and was walking up the stairs, and he heard his sister leaving a message. He ran over to the phone, turned to me, and yelled, "YOU IDIOT! WHY DIDN'T YOU ANSWER IT?" And I didn't know what to say because I had asked him if he wanted to talk to her, but he didn't answer. I coudn't cry in front of him. I did once and he started screaming at me for it. Do I even have a reason to be upset for him saying that to me? I don't know. Sometimes I feel so stupid for getting upset over things like that and I don't think I have a reason to. I was trying to tell my mom something earlier and he walked by, glared at me, and said, "SHUT UP!" For no reason. He yells and cusses at me and my brother almost every day for no reason at all. I've talked to my mom before and she didn't do anything. The only time she's tried talking to my dad about it, he simply started cussing at me and her. He's okay one minute, then the next he's yelling like a maniac. I can't take this anymore. I'm still crying over something he said to me LAST year. Do I have a reason to be upset? What am I supposed to do? (link)
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Always be strong is my advice. Your dad is having some anger issues that are not called for. Dads are NOT supposed to cuss and yell to their children. So, just remember, you have done nothing wrong. Block out every single thing he says that is false, ignore those comments. Your dad probably doesn't know he is hurting you that much.You are not stupid. Tell yourself this everytime you feel that you are, because if you don't, you will grow up with low self estem and no confidence. Your mom and your brother are going through the same ordeal so consult them and like I said before, stay strong. If things really turn out for the worst and your dad is hurting you so bad go to a school guide, teacher, or someone you trust.
Your dad has a problem, talk to him about it if you can, and if you can not,just be normal and follow my advice. Your dad loves you, he is just going through a tough time or has had a horrible childhood. Who knows, maybe he thinks cussing and yelling is no big deal.
Stay strong, no matter what, that is my advice.
P.S. I do not think school guides tell the parents but I am not exactly sure. Maybe if the situation is extreme. But, they (the school g.) are there to HELP you.
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Thank you so much! I have a question though. If you go to a school guide, do they tell your parents anything?
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