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This is to all psychologists and psychiatrists out there. How do you know if you have a good psychologist or
psychiatrist. In other words, how do you know if you have one that is helping you. Reason being I am asking
because Joe (a friend of mine) went to see one and the psychologist is helping him with work related issues but
never is right when it comes to Joes life outside of work. Joe said that he asked his girlfriend when did this
particular thing (he did this particular thing quite a few times) does it bother her. And she said why do I care; Then
Joe told his psychologist what his girlfriend said and his psychologist said oh yes it really bothers her but she wont
tell you. Joe asked his girlfriend later on that day does it really bother you but you wont say and she said no I
really dont care. (link)
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A good counsellor/psychologist/whatever should make the person they are with feel understood, listened to, and well supported. People in this field should be offering empathy, respect, and themselves as genuine people.
Just because someone has a certain qualification does not make them a better person than those they work with. A client is the true expert on their own life.
If Joe feels his psychologist isn't helping him, or is making unhelpful assumptions about his life, his first step might be to talk to the psychologist about that. A good professional would be open to discussion rather than getting defensive.
Joe always has the option of finding another person he feels he can work better with. Therapists are all different - not only are they trained in different approaches and styles, they are all unique individuals. It makes sense that someone might need to meet a few therapists before they found one they felt comfortable with.
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