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Q: Okay well my bf is 17 and I am 14..
We were thinking about having sex but we had 2nd thoughts because of diseases and pregnancy.
I don't know if he doesn't have any diseases and I'm not sure if I do.
But he really wants to do a lot of sexual things.
He wants to have anal with me and I don't really want to because I hear from a lot of my friends that it hurts.
But this may seem weird but we sometimes have phone sex and masturbate to each other while talking on the phone..
When we're together we're always making out and trying new things together but we haven't gotten to sex.
I'm not sure if I should have anal or sex with him.
i would say no to the anal sex. although it is enjoyable for the guy, the woman usually has to have large amounts of lubricant and stretching just to make it possible and it is usually painful and uncomfortable. You especially should not do this if you have doubts, you are at the beginning of your sexual life and there is plenty of time to experiment as you already have discovered with the phone. the phone sex is a great thing since it is safe, no worries about pregnancy or disease and it provides the release that i know you bf needs right now. You need to understand that your bf has what he thinks are irrepressable needs and he is going to keep a constant pressure for you to push your limits. be strong and dont commit to anything you dont for sure want to do and remind your bf of the reasons you are together besides your gratification of his sexual desires.

Thanks for the advice!


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