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Hey yall. :]

My name's Amy Gwendoline. I'm 16 years young, and I'm a junior in high school.

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Okay well my bf is 17 and I am 14..
We were thinking about having sex but we had 2nd thoughts because of diseases and pregnancy.
I don't know if he doesn't have any diseases and I'm not sure if I do.
But he really wants to do a lot of sexual things.
He wants to have anal with me and I don't really want to because I hear from a lot of my friends that it hurts.
But this may seem weird but we sometimes have phone sex and masturbate to each other while talking on the phone..
When we're together we're always making out and trying new things together but we haven't gotten to sex.
I'm not sure if I should have anal or sex with him.

I've never had anal so I can't tell you from experience if it hurts or not. I'm sure it does, but it's just something that you've got to be 100% okay with. You're not sure about it, which pretty much is the answer. Until you're in a relationship with someone where you feel like your relationship won't change then you just shouldn't have sex.

People say, "sex changes the relationship" their wrong. Sex SHOULDN'T change the relationship in any shape, way, or form. It's just bad to look at it that way.

I'm sure if you had a disease you would know about it, because you'd have to go to the doctors a lot & it'd just be VERY obvious. He should know as well especially being 17 years old.

If he wants to do a lot of sexual things, that's awesome. But don't do anything unless you KNOW that you're ready. I doubt you'd regret it, because you obviously like this dude. But you shouldn't do it until the feeling is mutual. If you talk about it more you'll be more open to it, so I suggest doing that if you're unsure about it.

Also, ask him if you were to say no to sex what he would say. If he says that he'd break up with you he obviously isn't worth anything. :]

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(Rating: 5) Thanks a lot!
I have talked to him about it before and he's fine with it; he understands.
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