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hEy EvErYoNe Im JaNe. AnD i LiKe To GiVe AdViCe... So FeEl FrEe To AsK mE aNyThInG yOu WaNt. SoRrY iF mY aDvIcE iSnT wHaT yOu WaNnA HeAr, It Is JuSt WhAt I fEeL nEeDs To Be SaId! jUsT rEmEmBeR: sOmEtImEs ThE aDvIcE yOu GeT iSnT wHaT yOu WaNnA hEaR, BuT tHaT dOeSnT mEaN tHe AdViCe iS bAd! AlWaYs KnOw ThAt I aM tRyInG mY bEsT!
JaNe

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Okay well my bf is 17 and I am 14..
We were thinking about having sex but we had 2nd thoughts because of diseases and pregnancy.
I don't know if he doesn't have any diseases and I'm not sure if I do.
But he really wants to do a lot of sexual things.
He wants to have anal with me and I don't really want to because I hear from a lot of my friends that it hurts.
But this may seem weird but we sometimes have phone sex and masturbate to each other while talking on the phone..
When we're together we're always making out and trying new things together but we haven't gotten to sex.
I'm not sure if I should have anal or sex with him.

Don't do anything that you aren't ready for. You're only 14, and you should enjoy it! If you had sex with him, then there is a very high chance of you getting pregnant. If you went through with the pregnancy, then you would have to take care of a baby. Truth be told, you aren't ready for that kind of commitment. Who would take care of the baby while you were at school? When you got home, you wouldn't have time for anything else. You wouldn't have time for fun! I don't want to act like a parent to you, i'm just trying to help! So just think it through, and know what you're getting into. If you're not sure if you're ready, then you probably aren't. If your boyfriend truly loves you, then he will understand that you aren't ready. If he isn't okay with it, then he probably isn't a good boyfriend.
JaNe

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(Rating: 5) Thanks a lot!
I'm sure he'll understand and I've talked to him about it before and he does.
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