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I won't say that I'll always have the right advice...or that I always know the answer.

I don't.

But I will say that I've traveled to some dark places in my nearly 18 years of living, and that when someone is going through something hard...they should never feel like they have to be alone.

If you want to go it alone, fine. But when it really starts to hurt, let someone in. Even if its someone on this site that you don't know. Sometimes strangers are easier to talk to than a friend or parent...

Just be safe, and do whatever you need to do to take care of yourself...

I'll always listen.

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I'm 23 years old and I’m getting married in February, and everything is going perfect. I really love my fiancé, and we have so much in common like taste in music and movies. We both graduated from Columbia. My fiancé was born and raised in England, and I was raised in California. We met when I was at a launch party for the modeling agency I model for. His brother was the photographer for the agency. But here's the thing, he grew up in England’s high society. He's gone out with heiresses and girls a lot richer than I am, and I keep asking myself "why in the hell would he pick me? Why does he want to be with me when he can have any other women he wants?" Although he was a player before we were together. I was the first girl he committed to. I guess in some ways I feel inferior to him. Am I really the person he wants to spend the rest of his life with? I guess I’m afraid that one day he's gonna realize he made a mistake and pick-up and leave; but is that really enough of a reason to break off a relationship with someone I truly love? I don't know how to talk to him and I think he's noticed a change in my behavior too. He keeps asking things like "Baby, what's wrong or Is everything okay, do you want to talk?" And I feel horrible because he thinks he did something wrong. What should I do? Should I marry him?

It's good that your asking yourself these questions before you get married, rather than after. I understand completely ...but you cannot enter a marital commitment with these doubts plauging you mind. Sit down and once and for all tell him about the way you feel, tell him everything, even though it will be hard. And then let him tell you what he thinks...and then after that all you can do is trust that his answer(s) are sincere. That's it. Trust him and trust yourself, but TRUST him. Doubts alone are not a reason to end something with someone you love, and it really sounds like you love him. Good luck in you lives together!

--StarLight88

If you wanna talk more, e-mail me at cardenb@countryday.net!

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