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Q: 15/f. lately i've been getting really upset because i'm 15 and i've never had a boyfriend, or a first kiss. i get really embarrassed when people talk about their boyfriends and their first kiss. and i'm always afraid that someone will make fun of me because i'm prude and never had a boyfriend. i don't know if it is something about my personality that is scaring some guys away. don't say that i shouldn't change myself for a guy because i would never do that (meaning dress differently or style my hair different). but i mean my personality. i'm a VERY organized person (like everything has to be neat) and i take my grades very seriously. is that a turn off? because sometimes i can become controlling if we are doing a project or something. what is something that i can do to become less controlling in situations? also i don't think that i'm ugly. so what is wrong? i also can get nervous talking to guys. OMG i'm just getting really frustrated with myself.

so basically these are my questions:
1)what can i do when people ask me if i'm prude knowing that i am?
2)how can i become less controlling in group projects?
3)is it weird that i'm 15 and haven't had a boyfriend or a first kiss?

sorry its so long...but thanks!

I had the same problem. I am 14 and never had a boyfriend until like a week ago. I still have not kissed a guy with out it being a game. I was thinking that I would be one of those ladies who lives alone except for her 20 cats! Haha. But honestly, you will meet someone who is right for you. And i agree with you that you should not change for anyone but yourself. I am also controlling when it comes to group projects, just take it slow and ask for others opinions. just relax and take deep breaths if you feel like you are working too hard. And if you are working with any guys, try relaxing by flirting a little! If someone asks you if your a prude.. just laugh about it and be like "yeah i am but i could change that if i had the chance" its fun and truthful unless you really want to be a prude for the rest of your life. And remember that guys like confidence!

Rating: 5

thanks so much!

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