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I am starting my own business. Because i want to be a stay at home mother one day! Just got married 10/2005. Extremely happy! He is truly my soul mate!
I have had many experiences in my life both positive and negative. i have had many people tell me that i am very wise for my age. I only hope that i can leave this world knowing that i did the best that i could and helped people.
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I am 17, and my boyfriend is 18.My boyfriend and I have been together now for almost a year and we are promised to each other to get married, I love him so much and i have never felt like this about any guy before until now. The thing is that he and I have a guy best friend Jake and when my boyfriend moved away to TN our other friend Jake and i started hanging out and i had a slight infatuation with him but i still was in love with my boyfriedni had to be honest so i told my boyfriend about how i felt and i ended up secretely dating both of them for a week, i broke it off with Jake because i felt so guilty about cheating, and my boyfriend knows. He knows how i feel and that we will be together froever but he has a massive trust issue with me. What can i do to make this trust issue go by faster so we can be happy together again? (link)
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First of all- the first step was you telling him! good job on that! I had a similar situation in my relatinship. So i can empathize with you! Honestly you don't want to hear this but it takes time! You have to make him feel that he can trust you. You have to work together to get past this because if he keeps these issues bottled up then your relationship could fail as a result. You have to be very understanding and supportive of how he must feel right now. He feels betrayed - confused- imbarrassed and i am sure many more. Guys dont usually say what they feel or what they think so you may have to pull conversations out of him. the best thing to do is talk about it - BUT don't let him keep throwing it in your face it's over and done and he needs to accept that and move on- if he can't accept that then there's a problem. HE must be assured that you will never ever betray him again. Guys are more insecure that they let on but they will never show because that's a weakness- you have to be there for him. do not see this other guy again - if JAKE was a friend to either of you he never would have done that- i don't care what he says that's not cool!
Basically you both have to be patient and need lots of quality time and with time on your side you guys have nothing to lose!
Best wishes
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thank you so much! i know i have to wait for time to pass.. so thank you!
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