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I love my boyfriend. He is the greatest! We talk all the time like on the phone and in school. We both never really talk about like holding hand and kissing and stuff like that. We've been going out for 8 months and we've never kissed, held hands, hugged! I'm in 8th grade and he is repeating 7th. I think we're afraid to do that stuff because he is my 1st bf and i'm his 1st gf. If we kissed, it'd be both our first. I really want to but he's afraid to, and that's why i haven't kissed him yet. Why are we both so afraid to? We both want to, but we just can't! Wht???? (link)
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A first kiss can be a scary thing. After all, both of you have probably been wondering what it would be like - and your expectations might be adding to your worry.
Will you hear bells ringing, or will you bump noses? How do you know how to do it? What will the other one think if it's not a great kiss? If you kiss, what does that lead to? How will the relationship change? When should you do it? How should you do it?
These questions might be something you realize you are thinking about, or they may be simply floating in the back of your mind. Either way, there may be a lot of pressure for you to do it perfectly.
Good news - if you really like someone and they like you back, it's pretty hard to screw up a kiss. And even if it's not perfect, if you really care for someone it's not going to cause a break-up.
You sound like someone who knows their own mind. If you want to kiss him and you know he wants to kiss you, why not go for it? Wait for a moment that feels right and do what feels okay with you. Pay attention to your gut instinct about timing, and you're likely to get it right.
I wish you the best!
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I just don't want to mess up! If i do, i know he wont break up with me, because he really care about me. I haven't been getting the feeling were going to yet, but i feel like it's comming soon. And he said the same thing.
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