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Q: 14/f

Well i'm in the 8th grade, and I dont have a best friend... is that bad??? I'm not saying that I am lonely and I have no friends, I have plenty of friends.. just none of them are actually my BEST friends. Arn't best friends supposed to be there for you when you're feeling low? and they always come and sleepover and you always share secrets with each other? welll it seems like whenever I go up to my other friends, they are always busy with 'their' other best friends. It's like they have no intrest in me anymore. My brother just moved away to college and my cousin is staying with us for a while. I have a dog, could that be my best friend? I just feel like I have a lot of depression going on in my life and I really need somebody to talk to. yes, i know.......... I can talk to you on advicenators, but I need somebody not only for talking... but to share my happy moments with, a best friend
and I know you'll say talk to your family.... but the thing is.. both of my parents are ALWAYS working... they leave the house way earlier than I do... and the next time I see them is when i'm asleep. Its just not fair. My brother is in college, and my cousin is always hanging out with his friends or finding some excuse not to be in the house. I'm really sad that I dont have a best friend, and I'm a very busy person.... could that be the reason why I dont have a best friend? cause i'm always busy and they never have any time with me????????
You might say join a school activity and meet friends there... but TRUST ME! I dont make friends easily, lets just say I get SUPER SUPER SUPER nervous when I meet new people, or give a speech to a class. PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!! I FEEL SO ALONE.... I always see kids in the hallway, hanging out with their best friends, and I am really sad that I dont have a best friend there by me. WHAT SHOULD I DO????????????
OH AND IF YOU COULD: ANOTHER QUESTION= HOW DO I GET RID OF THE FEAR OF MEETING NEW PEOPLE AND GIVING OUT SPEECHES??????????????? THANKS SOOOOOOOOO MUCH... I KNOW THIS WAS LONG, BUT THANKS

I didnt have a best friend last year, when I was in 8th grade either. I had many close ones but not a best one. You have to trust me, you'll find one eventually. Just pick one friend you like the best and try to hang out with her (or him) a lot. Try not to show any annoying habits at first. And hopefully you will have a new best friend.

For giving speeches.. i hate that too. You just need to relax and remember that everyone else is just as nervous.

For meeting new people just be yourself. Try to be more outgoing and start up a fun conversation, make a few jokes, and be nice. And remember when you are meeting someone that they could turn out to be your new best friend, or a new friend!

Rating: 5

thanks! I feel more confident now!

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