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Hello All,
I am counsellor with over 12 years experience specializing in parenting, families, youth and mental health. I answer questions in a blunt and straightforward way so if you are looking for coddling or really touchy feely type advice thats not me I provide real solutions for your problems and concrete suggestions in other words I tell you the plain truth I don't sugarcoat.

I am really worried these days with the easy access to the internet and all the false information that is out there and the fact that people believe it!! So please ask first. I don't claim to have all the answers but I can claim that NOTHING will shock me you can try though :)

I look forward to hearing you thoughts and questions.

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i'm not happy with the person I am. I was happy with who I was before I got married but since then I've noticed how like someone close to me I am. The problem? I don't want to be like this person. It's terrible to say but this person is not a good role model, thinking back possibly never has be and when I look at them, I know I don't want to be the same. Weak and afraid and always miserable.

But if I'm already like this person, how can I change? How can I stop becoming something i'm predestined to be? I know it sounds confusing but please help me. I can't talk to this person about it because they would be mortified if they thought I felt this way and they would cry.

We all see things in ourselves that are reminders of those we love and hate in our past and present. The goal is to be self aware enough to stop the negative behaviors. We are not predestined to be anything, life is about choices sometimes both choices suck but there are always choices. It will take time but when you catch yourself and make yourself aware stop the behavior, if you are miserable about aspects of your life change things in your life, if you feel weak find ways to empower yourself and if you are afraid confront those fears.

All of these things are hard to do but through time and effort are possible.

HOH

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(Rating: 5) Thanks. I feel a little less worried now!
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