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Hello All,
I am counsellor with over 12 years experience specializing in parenting, families, youth and mental health. I answer questions in a blunt and straightforward way so if you are looking for coddling or really touchy feely type advice thats not me I provide real solutions for your problems and concrete suggestions in other words I tell you the plain truth I don't sugarcoat.

I am really worried these days with the easy access to the internet and all the false information that is out there and the fact that people believe it!! So please ask first. I don't claim to have all the answers but I can claim that NOTHING will shock me you can try though :)

I look forward to hearing you thoughts and questions.

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(Rating: 5) I know this is kinda late, but I thought I would give you an update as well. The marriage hit an even rockier road and he called me one night to talk to me. He was upset and beating himself up about some of the problems in the marriage (i.e. one of her friends kissed him and his wife walked in). His wife has been blaming all of their marital problems on him and making him out the bad guy. In the midst of it, it was eating me up. I casually asked him if she ever cheated on him and he sighed and said not to his knowledge and why. I just said that I was wondering. He said, has she ever eluded you to believe that she may have? I said, I don't know. I'm not getting into it. He said, no. I need to know. So, I broke down crying and told him everything and he went home and confronted her with all of it. She denied it at first and said that I misunderstood. She eventually come clean and told him the truth. Thanks to the good Lord above, neither one of them are mad with me and both have called me numerous times telling me how much I mean to them and how much they love me. They've assured me that if things don't work out, they're still friends with me and love me and that they are not upset with me because I was honest. His wife even sincerely apologized to me for ever putting me in those positions. Thanks so much for you advice, I truly appreciate it. I held out until the right moment when I felt it was appropriate.
(Rating: 4) Rating changed by YG.
(Rating: 5) Thanks. I feel a little less worried now!
(Rating: 4) thanks!
(Rating: 5) Thanks so much for the great advice I wont be going home.
(Rating: 5) I'm 14. Thanks for the adivse. Yes it does seem the opposite//switchin roles. She made mistakes (money wise and men 'friend' wise) so that's y she's not to be trusted
(Rating: 5) thank you. =)
(Rating: 5) thx!
(Rating: 5) Ha right now i hate being a girl =[ haha
(Rating: 4) thanks
(Rating: 5) omg thank you soo much!! ♥ :)
(Rating: 5) Thanks a bunch. I'm glad someone feels the same..
(Rating: 5) thanks for the advice
(Rating: 4) itsnot a money problem. My dad is the one that made me get the damn job so i highly doubt he wants me to quit. my mom goes with them on these activities trust me ihave complained and talked and asked her to talk to my dad. Thanks tho.
(Rating: 5) That's good advice, thanks. I will start keeping a record of what I'm doing and I hope you're right and that they will realise by themselves. At least that way I will have back up! Thanks again.
(Rating: 5) THANK YOU SO SO MUCH FOR YOUR HELP! I'D RATE YOU A 10 BUT IT ONLY GOES UP TO 5...LOL
(Rating: 5) i will most definetely try to keep in contact with you if i have any more questions. my baby is due in january.
(Rating: 5) That's a really good idea. I never thought of that. I don't know if she feels left out but you could be right about the 'stuck in a rut' thing. I will give it a try (and warn my parents beforehand!)Thank you so much.
(Rating: 5) K, thanks.
(Rating: 5) Don't apologise for it being long! You were a really big help and I can't thank you enough. Learning to forgive myself will be hard - I seem to have no control over my emotions these days!! But thank you SO much. Your advice was great and I appreciate it a lot.
(Rating: 5) Thankyou so much you have no idea how much you helped me. I came here and I felt shame about it, but hearing it from a mom makes me feel a lot better about it rather than hearing just from some teenagers. Now I don't feel any shame and it's really affecting my mood. I'm much happier now. Thankyou again!
(Rating: 5) thanx ill give that a go.
(Rating: 5) Thank you
(Rating: 5) Thanks!
(Rating: 5) thank you
(Rating: 5) ahahahahhaa you're hilarious! that's good :D thaank you!
(Rating: 5) Thank you.
(Rating: 5) Ahh, great. THANK YOU!!
(Rating: 5) thakns!! someone said they took out the addictive ingredient though. and i didnt know one can smoke hemp lolo
(Rating: 5) thank you so much
(Rating: 5) I have tried cognitive therapy before and it didn't work unfortunately. However, I have recently discovered that the fear might possibly lay in the fact that from a very young age, my sickness was always met with anger by my father. It seems the two events are now bound together in my mind as my dear husband also has a tendency to not react well to this situation. If there are any other pointers you are able to give, I would be very grateful. Thanks for your help so far.
(Rating: 5) Thanks so much.
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much for your advice! It means a lot to me that other people such as yourself take the time to help others in need. I'm going to send her this page with all the advice, along with the clinic you sent me. Thanks again! I'll keep you posted :]
(Rating: 5) ur totally rite, thanx
(Rating: 5) Haha the tomato part is funny thanks!
(Rating: 5) thankss
(Rating: 5) Thanks for the personal examples, plus the sidelight on "forgetting". I was raised Catholic, and "forgive AND forget" was a daily mantra at my elementary school: I always felt a failure for not living up tp this ideal. But as your example so clearly and fairly showed, "forgetting" can be both imposssible and undesirable.
(Rating: 5) Thanks so much-what I thought, but just wanted o double check. Thanks again!
(Rating: 5) thank you.
(Rating: 5) thanks. it helped
(Rating: 4) thank you
(Rating: 5) What kind of losanges? Like regualar ones or ones made for ppl trying to quit smoking? Do you know the name of them? Thanks again. :)
(Rating: 5) thank you
(Rating: 5) Thanks! i always love your advice!!!!!
(Rating: 5) thank u soo much but the thing is that her mom loves all colors
(Rating: 5) thank you.
(Rating: 5) thanks!
(Rating: 5) The manager hasnt fired anyone even the people that dont do anything. And the fact that the manager told her to go part time would cause her to drop here other position and she wouldnt have as much to worry about. And im pretty sure its true because the store manager is a b*tch and would say something like that.
(Rating: 5) thanks for the help
(Rating: 5) Thanks! That helps a bit.
(Rating: 5) thanx thanx
(Rating: 5) Thank you.
(Rating: 5) thanks
(Rating: 4) Thanks for the advice on my sister's agoraphobia. You're right - I do need to have a chat with my mom. Have a gr8 day. Linda (chakkuri)
(Rating: 5) See, I've been considering this lately. I mean, not fully entrenched with tactics and gambits like a game of Risk or something, but yes. Good advice, yah.
(Rating: 5) ty
(Rating: 5) haha thank you
(Rating: 5) omg thanks so much! i have changed my mind. Just because i cant do anything doesnt mean i cant fantisize, right? Thanks so much!
(Rating: 5) my sn is bellaitaliana166 on aim.
(Rating: 5) from the U.S. to Mexico. please update with info =)
(Rating: 5) I'll try that! thanks
(Rating: 5) i am sure your right, but i am soo confused
(Rating: 5) wow thanks so much you dont no how much youve helped me because no one else hasnt even really answer my question.thanks so much <33
(Rating: 5) well it's for a Christmas card so I'm pretty much limited to Christmas.
(Rating: 5) Another perfect answer! thank u so much, this has been my gut feeling.
(Rating: 5) Thanks so much! You are deffinitly one of the best out there!
(Rating: 5) thnx
(Rating: 5) thanks! :)
(Rating: 4) ok thanks, its only been a few hours and the pressure of my nervouseness has died a little
(Rating: 5) tahnks so much. thast werid becuas ei am taking uperlevel science and math! wow thanks A LOT!!
(Rating: 5) wow thanks so much.
(Rating: 5) thanks a bunch!
(Rating: 3) thanx 4 the end part but i said masochist. like when you find joy in abuse
(Rating: 5) =)
(Rating: 5) wow..thanks!!
(Rating: 5) thanks
(Rating: 5) ya i totally understand!
(Rating: 5) haha thank you so much that made me feel better. i hope he gets poision ivy too :)
(Rating: 5) Thanks!
(Rating: 5) thanks a lot :)
(Rating: 5) Thanks...I think that would really work!
(Rating: 5) ahh im scared lol
(Rating: 5) thanks much. btw im 15 and he recenttly turned 16
(Rating: 5) thanks so much =]
(Rating: 5) thanks so much! this is truley and honestley GREAT advice!! ill definatley try this out!! thanks again!!
(Rating: 5) WOW!! THAT was such a great answer it helped me so much! Thanks!!
(Rating: 5) thanks!!
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much, you helped a ton! :D
(Rating: 5) I have an apointment with a doctor that my therapist set up for me, thanx for the help. they say i have a seriouse case of insomnia, and i need to get tested for a certain medicine, thanx. mucho luv
(Rating: 5) Thanks...it's not like I'm not eating, I'm just not eating as much as I normally do...like, at all...I'll keep that in mind, though.
(Rating: 5) thanks!
(Rating: 5) Thanks a lot! Helpful!
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much, I feel a lot better about it now!
(Rating: 5) THANKS! but dont you have jump into the water?
(Rating: 5) thnx
(Rating: 4) yeah i know for a fact that thats not the reason but thanx anyway.ill try talking to him but i know its going to be hard
(Rating: 5) Thanks so much, i appreciate it. =]]
(Rating: 5) thank you so much
(Rating: 5) Thanks for the opinion, but I've read other reviews that said limewire was better than morpheus as long as you don't download programs
(Rating: 5) thanks
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