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My boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 months, and i am 16 and he's 19. But it's alot different because we've known eachother for like all of our lives we have grown up in church together and he's a really good clean christian guy. And i am a really good clean christian girl and he's everything ive been looking for. And i know he's the one for me and i know without a doubt that i love him with all of my heart. But he used to smoke ciggarettes and he quit like 2 years before we started dating but he still does it like once every two weeks and i didnt know that...so he's basically been lying to me for like 4 months??? And i had to find out he was doing this from his brother...he had no intention in telling me! But i know or at least i feel 100% sure he hasnt lied to me about anything else but i just cant believe he would do that. And we got into a HUGE argument yesterday but we kinda made up, but things arent the way that they used to be you know? I just dont know what to do? I never thought he would keep something from me?? What do i do?

The way I see it, he smoked and quit 2 years ago. He probably doesn't feel that smoking is that big of deal. He's only doing it every once in a while.

I'm putting myself in his position. I'm a Christian girl also and I smoke every once in a while. It takes the stress off. I never told any of my boyfriends about it because smoking is something completely different from things such as getting high. Keep in mind that we all have our vices and a cigarette every once in a while is ok. But if you're having a really hard time trusting him - you need to talk to him about it.

Remember: some things we may not consider as big of a deal as others do. We all look at things differently.

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(Rating: 5) Thanks i have looked at it like that, its not that im mad that he smoked its just i never thought that he would lie about it...ya know? But thank you i know everything will work out!
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