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I've gone on 2 dates with this guy who's still in the closet. He's never been in a relationship and we've kissed and made out and did other sensual things, not sex. I asked him if he wanted to go out and do something with me next week and his response was, "maybe" I asked him why "maybe" and he said, "well I could be going on a date next week." I was like, "oh okay that's cool, keeping your options open."
He's like, "yeah" "are you okay with that?" I was like, "not really, but I don't want to act like i'm too attached." then I ask, "would you be okay if I went on a date with another guy between then and now?" he said, "yeah, i'm not clingy." Okay, now analyze this and asnwer this question. What's the difference between being clingy, and acting interested? In my mind, him saying that he might be on a date with another person between then and now, shows that he's not interested in me. And second, isn't it rude anyway to tell the person who you've gone out with two dates on that you might be going on a date with someone else? please help, this frustrates me. (link)
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I believe every relationship can have its own rules as long as you are honest about how you feel and both people agree and are on the same wave length. One person might want an open relationship the next a pickett fence children and a nanny. You two fall somewhere in between. but maybe not in the same place on the scale. I think the fact that he was honest with you is awsome! I think the fact that you were honest with him is wonderful and doesnt make you clingy.
The fact that you have had two dates and want to be exclusive might be a bit rushed. But I also believe when you find the right person he wont want to date around. When you find the person on the scale between pickett fences and open orgies you will both want the same thing at the same time. So you have a choice. Date this guy and others casually. Or move on. But continue to be honest.
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thank you, that was really insightful
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