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I won't say that I'll always have the right advice...or that I always know the answer.

I don't.

But I will say that I've traveled to some dark places in my nearly 18 years of living, and that when someone is going through something hard...they should never feel like they have to be alone.

If you want to go it alone, fine. But when it really starts to hurt, let someone in. Even if its someone on this site that you don't know. Sometimes strangers are easier to talk to than a friend or parent...

Just be safe, and do whatever you need to do to take care of yourself...

I'll always listen.

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So as of October 25 2006 I had known my bf a year and November 12 2006 will 6 months and I love him so much. I love him soooooo much and he means the world to me. He came into my life when I least expected it and he came in the way I least expected a guy to come to me. I had been going through issues after a hard a** break up with this jerk who was my 1st love who I had been with for a 1 year & almost month. He broke up with me and I so wanted to hurt him, anyways I prayed to go for him to bring someone around I dont care who it was jsut to help me cope through it all. 2 days lata after I prayed that my now bf showed up like I said in the least expected way. He was perfect but I didnt love him at first neither one of us expeted to fall in lvoe but it sorta happened. He is so damn amazing and I am so addicted to him, and he said he couldnt leave me ever if he wanted cause im his addiction like major. HE says he loves me and he has never felt this way for another girl like he does for me. He is like I have loved girls before but not like you. He says I am different then any girl he has met before. We have tlaked about marriage and kids a few time, but anyways let me get to the point I wanna know if this dude right here seems like mr right!! I am 17 and a senior in high school and him the same so its not like I am way young anymore and he anit my 1st love but you think he might be the one?

Rainbow23 is right, very right. Don't rush into anything. I understand that what you're feeling is very intense, it practically consumes you, these feelings of love and need.

But you're still really young, I mean, really young. You've got your whole life ahead of you, so please rush into something on the basis that you are both crazily in love. That's good. Congratulations! Perhaps the two of you are meant for each other, but it's really too soon to know.

My advice is to finish your academic career first...go to college! Seriously. You guys can either attend the same or go to different ones. But college is the closest thing to being in the "real world" without being in it. If your relationship can survive that, then you two have found something special that people often spend their whole lives looking for.

Don't take what you have for granted, be aware that if this is what you want then you will be tested, either by life, people, and even each other. If this is what you want, if you want to spend the rest of your life with this person it is important to conquer each issue together, and to understand...what being together really means. As cliche as this sounds, relationships (married or otherwise, regardless of how in love you are)aren't always a simple walk through the park, there tough stuff.

All I have is one question for you, and the only person you truly have to answer honestly is yourself:

"Are you ready?"


--Star

(If you wanna talk some more, e-mail me at cardenb@countryday.net)

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(Rating: 5) thanks for the advice very good
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