Q: Riiight...
I'm 14. My girlfriend is 16. We both love each other very much.
Recently, after a night of passion (basically lots of making out and holding one another), she offered to take me to third base. I am simply not sure I'm ready for this, for a couple reasons...
The major one is it's simply incredibly daunting. I've never made it that far with any girl, and this is the kind of thing I've heard about in health class. I feel a little young and unprepared... I just get rather nervous when I consider it.
The other is simply the original idea I had when I first heard of it. I remember back years ago, when I first heard of the whole idea, I remember thinking "Wow, that sounds really disgusting for her. I would never make ANY girl do that for me". She says it doesn't bother me, but I don't know...
What you have to understand is that it's not her, it's me. I love and trust her indefinitely, it's issues I just have with myself. I think I also feel a little insecure about my body... I'm also afraid, however, that if I continuously pass something like this up, I'll just never be ready no matter how old I get.
Please don't answer this from a religious standpoint, and don't just say "talk to her" because I'm already doing that. She'd like an answer by Saturday.
Does anyone have any advice?
