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OK this is the hardest thing i have ever been through.. :( and i have never felt this way about someone before..we have been through so much and shared so many good memories..well the story goes like this...
A girl comes out of nowhere and starts flirting with my bf of 9 months on myspace. They wind up hanging out at a football game with friends and he tells me he has some feelings for her. This was heartbreaking. However..i wanted to work it out with him so when he suggested 'open relationship' as in he dates her(not go out) and maybe kisses/hugs her and i agreed to this and to still be with him. I decided it wasnt fair to me..because we had 9 months..i dont desserve this and it hurts..so i break up with him..He says he loves me and sees a future with me as in marriage..that it wont get serious with the new girl but how am i supposed to know? (i mean he might go out with her he says..what do i do then?)They are hanging out more..they call each other..shes driving me nuts with her shoutouts to him and comments..and hes putting her shoutout in his info..its just too much and it breaks my heart. I dont know what to do..isolate myself from him..like not talk to him or hang out or anything so he makes a choice? (like if hes away from me maybe he will miss me..or maybe he will decide he wants her) Or do i be his friend? do i kiss him still and cuddle? i really want to..but this is very hard for me. Hes a sweetheart though. he told me everything..he was honest about her..and we made an agreement that he tells me everything and he has. they were talking together by the lake..they might go to the movies tomorro..i flip flop back and forth though..be his friend and hang out/talk/cuddle/kiss him...but sometimes i feel so sad and hurt i feel like i should back away completely. what do i do? is this worth the wait? (link)
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It's so hard when you really are in love with someone and need to make decision to leave or forgive them because the mistake they made.
(this is for yourself, don't tell him you made this decision)Just be his friend. A very very close friend that hug and listen to each other. (no more kiss though......) Be there for him all the time.
(this is the part you tell him)He actually NEEDS to figure out who to choose to be his gf. It's great he loves you and wants to have furture with you, but not every time when another girls he has feelings with show up, then he can go out with them. (Even he's honest with you)
There's always going to be better persons than your other half show up on the road, but we all have to stick with the one we really love. (for example, spending future with it)
Don't give him away, if you really LOVE him.
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thanks but i dont know what to do? i will be inboxing you for more help :) thank u
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