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I won't say that I'll always have the right advice...or that I always know the answer.

I don't.

But I will say that I've traveled to some dark places in my nearly 18 years of living, and that when someone is going through something hard...they should never feel like they have to be alone.

If you want to go it alone, fine. But when it really starts to hurt, let someone in. Even if its someone on this site that you don't know. Sometimes strangers are easier to talk to than a friend or parent...

Just be safe, and do whatever you need to do to take care of yourself...

I'll always listen.

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my boyfriend has been pressuring me into sex and im 14,i know it might sound stupid but iv had sex before with other lads, but im not sure if im ready to with him! he told me that if i don't then he's going to leave me. please help me out!!!!!

I applaud you for not giving in to your boyfriend.

Bottom line, you told him no, and did you tell him why? If not sit down and talk to him and tell him what you're feeling. Don't let him force you ro do anything that you are not ready for. I'm not sure about how long you've been dating...

But regardless, you are fourteen, and though you have experienced sex before, its your body and you have the right to wait or do what you wish, as long as you're safe. (Please be safe)

No means no, and if he is willing to end your relationship over the fact that you don't want to have sex with him at this time, then he honestly does not respect you in the way he should.

If he doesn't care about your feelings or chooses not to understand, then thats not your problem because he may be one of the many guys out here who isn't worth your time, though you may feel like he is now. If he truly cares as much as he claims then he would understand and wait.

You don't have the problem, sweetheart, he does. Accept that and move on to someone else who knows how to enjoy the pleasure of your company.

(You did the right thing by listening to yourself and realizing that you weren't sure. Bravo!)


--Star


(If you wanna talk more, e-mail me at cardenb@countryday.net)

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(Rating: 5) thankyou huni your great lol xxx

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