I'm an engineering student (electrical). I'm just slightly a "nerd" and a "geek"--but in a good sort of way. Like, I fix a lot of things for friends, and I have a lot friends. ; ) But I enjoy other stuff too.
I am tall and otherwise average build. People tell me I have a great sense of humor and they like my wit (puns are "cheap humor"). A few girls have told me I am good-looking, but I don't think I am. I think I'm average looking. Some girls in bars have called me "handsome." But that's their job to make customers feel good.
Anyway, I am 21. I like all kinds of elecrical gadetry and computers. I would like to work for NASA someday. Space and the unknown fascinate me.
This is really weird, but I would prefer to listen to classical music than just about any other kind of music. I have a part-time job where I sometimes work on sound systems and I have to listen to rock in order to test the systems, but that's the only time I listen, except for some of the classic rock stuff that my dad has mentioned.
The thing I like most is helping people solve problems--gadget problems as well as personal problems. I have a quite a few friends (both male and female) who just like to hang out and work through their relationship problems, school problems, and career choice issues. I have thought about being a psychologist or counselor, but it doesn't seem to pay enough. : (
I ramble a lot too. ;)
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Age: 21
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I'm not sure that advice is EXACTLY what I'm looking for, but I'd like to understand something. Love seems to have a different impact on everyone who feels it. (This is about romantic love.) Why do you think love is important? What does it do for people? What is the point? Fulfillment? I have heard that no two people can ever fully understand each other, but we all spend years trying to find that one person who can understand us. Why ? (link)
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We're just "wired" that way, to want love. Yeah, and I am sure "love" is different for many people, but some people agree on what it means. I remember one time when a school counselor asked me to define love, because I really felt "in love" with this girl in high school, and I was miserable because she wouldn't date me, and I wanted to talk to a counselor about it. I remember taking a long time to answer the counselor's question because I hadn't really thought about trying to define love; I just felt it and experienced the emotion or the sensation without trying to find words to describe it. But anyway, I finally told the counselor that love is a feeling of companionship, of wanting to do something for the other person, of wanting to give the other person more than you have yourself, of wanting to be with the other person more than anything else you can think of, of just enjoying talking with the other person. The counselor said, "Yes, you know what love is and you have experienced it."
Love is like a switch that gets turned on within us and it motivates us to be with another person and to put the other person's needs and well-being far above our own. Yes, love may be illogical at times; I know my own behavior is sometimes illogical when I am experiencing being "in love." But it can be a heck of a lot of fun for two people. I don't think a couple has to "fully understand" each to be in love. Sometimes not fully knowing each other keeps the relationship interesting. But you need to know enough about each other to have unconditional trust, to know that the other person is always your ally, your friend, your partner. Different people have different ways of understanding each other. Understanding is something that happens as a relationship grows, and it can mean a lot of different things, depending on how the relationship develops over time.
Also, I don't think you have to spend years trying to find the "right" person. I used to think this, but now I think you can find love practically anywhere you go, if there are a lot of different kinds of people present. I am not sure that I have ever found anyone without some flaws, but I have been "in love" at least five times. Make it your #1 goal to get out of the house or out of the office and meet people. Take classes, join volunteer organizations, go shopping when other people are shopping, let your friends know that you really want to meet people, join a church and get involved in church activities, take up one or more hobbies that require interacting with people, get a dog and walk it through the neighborhood, try to be friendly and look friendly, listen to what other people talk about and see if you can contribute to their conversations, get in shape through exercise and dieting, buy some stylish clothes--you probably already know this stuff--but just in case.
Your questions are very difficult to answer because they seem to require concrete answers, and love isn't like that. But, knowing that doesn't help you at all. Hopefully, something here helps a little.
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