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I've been dating this guy for about five months now. I think we're perfect together & everytime I'm with him, he makes me the happiest girlfriend alive. He's like a part of my life & I really don't know what would happen if he weren't to be in my life anymore.
With that, we have this BIG disagreement.
He smokes weed, and I think it's REALLY gross. Ever since he met me, he has cut down, because he hangs out with me a lot, and he won't do it around me. He smoked weed for like three years before he met me, so it's not like he just recently started. I know weed isn't addicting, the only reason he likes it is because it's just nice to have every once in awhile.
I don't like weed because I just don't like how weird he acts when he's on it, it just scares me. He also says mean things about me, [I found his tape recorder & he ended up recording an entire conversation with his roommate talking about how unhappy he is with me!]
He said he's not willing to change & weed has been around a lot longer then me.
I'm lost, what should I do??
Thank you! (link)
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The fact that he's not willing to quit the weed suggests he is in fact addicted to it! There is such a thing as a psychological addiction to weed. The worrying thing is that the full affects of weed is still unknown and is still being researched. For example, I recently read an article that states that research has shown that cannabis can cause Schizophrenia in young people!
There are harmful effects to smoking weed. Also, people who tend to smoke weed do tend to go on to take harder drugs as the buzz of weed starts to fade and they get immune to it. So I completely agree with you hating weed! I do too! I've seen people get addicted to it and move onto harder stuff.
All behaviour altering drugs are a big NO NO!
Try showing your boyfriend the dangers of smoking weed and talk to him seriously about it and tell him how he acts differently when he smokes. If he's hell bent onnot changing, then ditch him! He should be willing to compromise for you. Yes, granted he doesn't smoke in front of you, but if he's mean to you and scares when he's under the influence of weed then that's a big problem.
Also, how did he justify making a tape where he disses you!? Why do you want to stay with someone like that? You're in danger of falling in a rut and having your self-esteem trampled if you continue to be with someone who talks behind your back like that. And for him to say weed's been around longer than you shows how messed up his priorities are! It sows he's weak and addicted as he'd be willing to choose weed over you.
Set him a challenge to see if he can go without smoking weed for 1 month. I'll shocked if he lasts a week.
I wish you all the best and hope you make the right choice for you!
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Thank you very much.
He actually claims that he hasn't smoked weed in like a month & a half. I'm pretty sure I believe him. I was really upset when I overheard the tape, I was like astonished. He said that, yeah he said some stupid things and he meant them, at the time. Because we were going through a rough stage. But, you're definitely right it doesn't justify anything, and hearing the mean things his friends said about me, was horrible. ]:
It's definitely a psychological addiction. Your advice was the best. You KNOW what you're talking about. & It definitely helped.
Thank you very much!
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