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I am 21 and a bit of a "nerd." I love to be around girls, but I have always been shy, and I have not had many dates. The dates I've had were just dinner and a movie and then take the girl back to her home, and I'd go back to mine, and maybe we'd talk by phone later, and go out again sometime, but nothing more. All pretty innocent stuff; rarely even a kiss.
But recently I met an attractive girl in one of my glasses and things are different this time. She was hard not to notice because she often wears short skirts or shorts (when the weather permits), and she has really nice long legs and a great body to match. We have gone out several times. After the first three dates where we did nothing but kiss, we began getting a little more intimate. Since our fifth date, she has given me a handjob on every date. Of course I enjoy it and would do practically anything to have her do it to me. But here is my concern: She seems like a nice person, and even has certain Christian values, goes to church regularly, and other stuff. Yet, she tells me that she has given most of her other guy friends handjobs. When she told me that, I felt a whole lot less special, and so I asked her why she did it. She told me simply that she thought "guys like it", and she saw nothing wrong with doing for them what they do for themselves all of the time. She says she's a virgin and will not have intercourse until marriage. Now, everything else about the relationship seems to be going well except for my knowing that she gives guys what they want (within limits). I am not very experienced with dating and with girls. Is this normal behavior in dating? Did I grow up in such a conservative environment that I never learned about these things? Or, is she not the "nice" girl that I thought she is? If this is the case, I want to get out of this relationship as soon as I can find the courage. I just don't know what is "normal" dating behavior, and what to expect. Is this what people do on dates? Do girls and guys our age (were both 21 now, and we were 20 when we met) do these things (i.e., have manual sex) fairly casually? Or, is my "nice" girlfriend really promiscuous?" (link)
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Okay. First of all... SHE BETTER NOT BE GIVING THOSE OTHER GUYS HAND JOBS WHEN YOU TWO ARE GOING OUT. NEVER NEVER NEVER. Honestly I think you have a bad relationship with her. It seems like she's just using you if all you did on the first few dates was kiss and now all she does is give you hand jobs. Of course guys like it you idiot. That's not an excuse. Seriously dude. Sometimes it depends whether or not you're doing this stuff already with her when you've been on like 5 dates. To some people its alot and to some its a little. I mean, some people do it on the first date. She told you she wants to get married, so thats good if you're looking for that. You guys need to stop fooling around so much, becuase if you wnt a long term good realationship with this girl.... then you need to start getting to know each other. Don't just keep her becuase she's good looking and your a nerd and you wnat to show her off. thats STUPIDDDD. Just do what you think is right.
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Thanks for the reply. It makes me think about what the relationship is all about.
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