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I won't say that I'll always have the right advice...or that I always know the answer.

I don't.

But I will say that I've traveled to some dark places in my nearly 18 years of living, and that when someone is going through something hard...they should never feel like they have to be alone.

If you want to go it alone, fine. But when it really starts to hurt, let someone in. Even if its someone on this site that you don't know. Sometimes strangers are easier to talk to than a friend or parent...

Just be safe, and do whatever you need to do to take care of yourself...

I'll always listen.

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talk to. its about a boy
im f/15
i transferred to another school in sep. and well...i have a boyfriend now. he asked me out two days ago and i only known him for less than a month (is that bad?) but he goes to my school. i always wanted to wait for the perfect boyfriend for me like the one im goin to marry and and have kids with but i guess i was just feeling like i needed a boyfriend.. now that im goin out with him i realize that he's not my type but it has been only 2 days. part of me wants us to be over and another part of me wants to be with him. but i feel like it's too late to leave him because i dont want to make him mad or feel bad that i dont have the same feelings..the girls in my school say that he goes from girl to girl and i've seen how he was talkin to other girls and then me. i dont know what to do. i think i just want somebody because of my hormones, not that im thinking about loosing my virginity to him(made the decision to do so when i marry). i havent tounge kissed him yet because it'll be my first time and im nervous like what do i do? i've kissed him on his lips though and i think i had my eyes open lol i cant really remember. but yea i feel like i went to fast that we should have took some time to get to know more of each other before we went out. (we took some time but it wasn't enough). what do you think i should do about the situation also have u ever been tounge kissed..can you tell me what it's like.. i had plenty of chances to experience it but chose not to...thanx

It's not too late babe, its never to late. It's wonderful that you have made the decision to give such a special gift to your husband, and that you have the guts to say so.

It's been two or three days, so, I'd say give it another week, but no more. If you're sure, then be sure. Trust yourself. He'll feel worse if you continue to date him. If you want a chance to salvage any part of your relationship and be friends then end it soon, and don't feel bad. You're being honest with yourself.

Just make sure that the rumors you're hearing around school aren't the underlying factors influencing your decisions...

And by the way, the purpose of dating is to look for a potentiial husband or wife, but also to see what you like or don't like in a person, or see what types of personalities you may or may not be compatible with, thats all. So don't be afraid to date.

And as for french kissing, it can be a little messy...and you know if the person is doing it wrong if you end up with saliva all over your face or his tongue is being jammed down your throat. It can be fun though, and feel rather nice...ah, with the right person...

(Hope this helps! Wanna talk more? Feel free to contact me at cardenb@countryday.net)

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(Rating: 5) thanx soo much i will be emailing you..by the way my name is kendra
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