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I've got a particular interest in sexual health and sexuality. I know a lot about fertility and pregnancy - and firsthand now, as I've just had twins. I'm also an accredited sexual health worker.
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I was always against abortion. I am 16 years old and pregnant. I have a boyfriend for 5 monghs now and we never had sex. The problem is that on a night out with a friend of mine "girl" I got raped. Somebody must have sleeped me that ruffy cause I do not remember anything and woke up the next day feeling like my head is going to explode. That happen over 45 days ago.
My parents now, we told them its my boyfriends and it is my fault cuase my parents have been through a lot and I really dont want them to know. I consider myself mature enough to battle with my own problems and mistakes. I consider it to be my fault since I was not carefull enough. Plus, them knowing would change a lot.
I definately do not want to keep that baby, I definately am not ready to become a mother especially on such an occasion and already too many people know. My parents want me to keep it even though we are not wealthy at all.
I know that after 3 months you can now longer have an abortion so I am running out of time. How do I convince my parents to let me do it? And...if they dont allow me to, I ll do it myself. What could change then? How will I be able to make them, accept my choice. My boyfriend has been really understanding with the hole situation and really helpfull. He is the one willing to give the money for such an...act.
I am ready to do anything it takes not to have that baby, If I have to punch myself in the stomach, I ll do it.
People from my church also know. They will never take me back after such a thing. My boyfriend sais he could move far away with me were we will work and go to school at the same time. (link)
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Your first step is to phone up your local sexual health clinic. They should offer teens free appointments, or on a sliding scale.
You will be able to access accurate, relevant info about pregnancy and abortion from them. They should also offer you counselling - important to help you come to a decision, but also to deal with your sexual assault.
You need to do what is right for you. Your life now sounds heavily dependent on your parents' and church's opinion; this is a big factor as you still live at home. Still, you won't be there forever - but you will have to be okay with your choice.
Whatever you decide, please get some emotional support for yourself. Keeping a baby OR having an abortion will impact you, there's no way around that. And assault will probably have an affect on you, too.
Speak to a professional ASAP, and they will also be able to offer you support with how to speak to your parents.
Best of luck.
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thanks a lot for your information. I know I feel bad, I could describe my feelings using the biggest words and I still would not be able to make others understand. But, I know it is all in my mind so I try not to let it affect me. I might sound as if I dont care but its not true. Its just I am a fighter, I know it is all inside my mind and a matter of perception but still I try to think of the good stuff. By the way, I am not going to punch myself in the stomach, if I gave that idea. I am going to loose the baby in the hospital and after see what happens with my parents. They are my parents, they cant hate me.
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