Member Since: October 23, 2006
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Last Update: October 27, 2006
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I'm a teenage . Recently I have discovered that life isn't worth living unless you have love in your life. By love, I mean a significant other. I'm an artistic type of person who actually NEEDS a significant other to complete them. I'm dying without love, and since last week I have turned to alcohol to solve my problems. I have WAY TOO MUCH stress from school and work (i'm a stage actress so work for me is rehearsal) and dance classes. When I feel depressed and suicidal and I can't take this world anymore- I drink red wine. It's a bottle that I have taken from my parents. I only drink 2-3 SIPS (not DRINKS) every day... But today I had double that amount because I felt crappy from my hangover.
I feel like an alcoholic because I can't function if I haven't had my alcohol. I need to know if I've become an alcoholic or not.
And how can I survive without love? My libido is so high I could die. And ion isn't enough for me anymore. Oh, and don't tell me that "the time will come" or anything like that, or that "I'm too young". Because I'm not. I'm mature enough physically and emotionally to handle a serious relationship with another human being.
I am friendless and sick of being shunned by everyone I know.
I don't believe in God. I'm an atheist but i was raised a catholic. (link)
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You do sound on the edge of despair.
The most alarming thing that sounds out to me is the drinking. I think you're on the verge of becoming an alcoholic because you're letting alcohol control you and you're using to block out you're problems.
I think what you need to do first and foremost is go see your GP. You may have a medical sort of depression, i.e. hormone imbalance, which could be solved. Secondly, cut out the drink! Go to a support group. Thirdly, start networking and joining clubs or the gym to start making friends. You ended with saying you're friendless, which I feel is more important than having a boyfriend/girlfriend...as the saying goes, they come and go but friend sare for life.
I think, once you start making friends, you will not feel so empty and depressed and you'll realise that life is worth living. I know it's easier said than done, but everyone has the ability to make friends. It's just about finding the right friends! DO some hobbies, you're more likely to find friends outside of school who have similar interests to you than within school.
Once you get some friends, you'll start feeling more positivie about life. This positivity will start showing to others and will consequently make you more attractive to the opposite sex! Guys like girls with confidence and a positive outlook. If you're down, you'll reflect that in your expressions.
Also, try this exercise, list one or two things everyday that you like about yourself. I know that may seem hard but you WILL find something you like. It may be a physical attribute, i.e. your eyes, something in your perosnality, or even something good you did. If you make this a regular daily thing, before you know it, you're giving yourself confidence and realising the world isn't so bad after all!
Additionally, this may seem silly but you'll be surprised...make sure you are eating healthily and have a balanced diet! Studies show that eating the wrong foods canmake you prone to depression and put your hormones out of whack.
Fresh fruit, veg, nuts, seeds and even chocolate are great for making you happy...they have endorphines!
Also, have a lot of oily fish, or have omega 3 capsules...again it boosts your morale and your brain activity.
Finally, just ry everything you can and get all the help you can get because, whether you believe in God or not, your life like all human lift is precious and a gift. You have to realise that you were put on this earth for a reason. Your hear to live your life and we're all only here for a short time, not forever, so make the most of it! You deserve to be here just as much as anyone else! So please, don't be suicidal, get the help you need and start looking forward to a new and better you!
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thank you so much for your time and consideration. it brings tears to my eyes to know that there is someone out there who cares a little bit (or did, while they were writing this) about my sanity.
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