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Q: 14/f.

please readd. i need your help.

My friend, she has a cheerleading competition, on the same day as my halloween party. its like huge like 60 kids. & everything. I can't reschedule it, because its the only day they could do it.

Its our last year at the same school together, so its not like there will be another halloween party.

Anyways, I'm really mad.. that she'd rather go to some stupid cheerleading competition then be at my halloween party with me. is that being selfish? I mean there will be other cheerleading competitions. Right? Wouldnt you be mad, if that happened to you?

you can't ask her to blow off cheerlieading to hang ouot with you. it's not necisarilly selfish, just a bit un-realistic. she woudn't exactly be blowing you off either, she knew she had to do that most likely before she knew of your party. okay, i guess it is selfish. if it's important to her and it's something she cares about, you shouldn't hold one party over her head. what's so important about her being there that night? you can always have a small 'party' between you and her a few days prior to or after. you need to realize that this isn't ditching nor is it that she doesn't care about you. so don't over think the situation, because neither event is big enough to be annoyed at eachother.