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Q: I have this friend...lets call the friend C. C is one of my bestest friends. C's so fun and lively and gosh, you can't tell that theres anything bad going on in C's life. C's one of the two friends that I have that are always cheerful and happy. Well, yesterday when we were being idiots and dancing in the hallways b/w class(don't ask) I saw that C cut itself on the top of C's hand and was concealing it with C's sleeves. I can understand why since C hates C's little brother, C's mom and dad are divorced, C's not all that rich, and C hates his stepdad. The thing is that I cut too... and do not lecture me on that fact. I haven't told ANYONE at my school that I cut and I want to keep it that way. I want C to stop and not cut though. I know it sounds weird and hypocritical but I wnat C to stop. I know it's a dangerous thing to do and can turn fatal at any given time. That's why I wnat C to stop. Isn't it weird that while I do the same thing I don't want C to do it? What is wrong with me for thinking that way? Why am I thinking that way? What are things I can do or say to stop C from cutting? If I try to talk about it, he ignores me and stops the conversation say he doesn't want to talk about it.
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One thing you could do is go to a counseler, for you and for c, but you probably dont want to do that. If I were you I would find a time where I could be with him alone and start a serious conversation. Try to pull some info out of him before you confront him about cutting; you dont want to say the wrong things. If you confront him about it and he starts to walk away or something, say "I know you dont want to talk about it, but we have somethings in common and I really would like us to help each other." You might not want to say "I really want to help you" because he might get the idea that you feel really bad for him or something. But if I were you,I would try to steer the conversation to helping each other. That way, you get to results from one.
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thx. but i can't tell him that i cut too because he can never keep secrets for too long.
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Member Since: March 8, 2006 Answers: 115 Last Update: August 13, 2011 Visitors: 7929
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