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im 17 and i have a job but i work maybe 3 days a week. My dad never works around my schedule. he always plans Activities on the days that i work. And he does it purposely. Like the whole family will go bowling, out to eat, to an amusement park or the movies. And of course i have to work. And when i get upset or pissed about them doing things without me i get yelled at about it.
its drving me nuts. Im still part of this freakn family. What do i do?
thanks
- We can do these things everyday of the freakn week but its always the days i have to work. I have explained and begged and said please plan things when i dont have to work, but they dont.
Ok first off could it possibly be a question of money? With you not there it is cheaper so thats just something to think on.
Secondly, you need to have a calm discussion, not one when you are upset, with your mom not your dad if possible. Explain that you are hurt by this and that while you understand that you won't be able to always be a part of all activities you would like to be a part of some. By going to your mom you are hopefully showing her a mature young women and she can talk to your dad for you.
Lastly, is it possible that your dad doesn't want you to work? What he is doing sounds alot like he is being passive aggresive and purposely planning stuff you want to do but that conflicts with your work schedule which in the long run would make you want to quit your job.
Without knowing you or your family this is the best guess that I can give you. Hope it helps.
(Rating: 4) itsnot a money problem. My dad is the one that made me get the damn job so i highly doubt he wants me to quit. my mom goes with them on these activities trust me ihave complained and talked and asked her to talk to my dad. Thanks tho.