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I'm 21/f married to a 23/m. We've been married for two and a half years and we have a five month old baby girl. We've known each other since I was sixteen. Lately we've really been having our ups and downs.
We're moving two hours away from where we live now, because of the job he got. He already moved to where we're going to be living, so he can start the job and not have to drive two hours there and two hours back each day, while I stay here and sell the house. He's living in an apartment until we sell the house and our baby and myself move there.
The problem is, I don't know how to deal with it anymore. See he's a policeman, and it's something he really loves doing. I've told him I don't want him to do it but I don't want to crush his dream of being what he wants to be just because I'll worry about him. Anyways we talk alot on the phone and he comes home almost every weekend if he has it off. But some days we don't get to talk because he's so busy with work and I'm working and taking care of the baby when I get home. I miss him so much at night I could cry and cry until I don't have tears left but I force myself not to sometimes for my baby girl. I feel alone alot and sometimes I question if he really loves me or not. Then I beat myself up over it all for thinking that when I know he does.
I just don't know what to do anymore. I don't know how long it'll have to be like this but I don't know how long I can take it. Any advice would be apreciated alot. Thanks (link)
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You need to go to him. Easier said than done, I know...but family is more important than any obstacle standing in your way right now.
You will be paying for both your mortgage and his rent, whether you live in the house or not. I would clean it out, put all the stuff I can't bring with me in storage and go. The house isn't going to sell any faster just because you're living in it! Infact, it will probably sell faster if it's vacant! I would lower my asking price, show urgency and stress immediate occupancy. It may take a little while, but it will sell. Then you and your hubby can buy a new love nest! Until then, I would be happy living all together in his little apartment.
Also, have you considered renting your house out instead of selling it right away? That way you are not paying for mortgage AND rent...just a thought.
Keep your head up, you will be together soon!
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