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my name is heather. i am pagan. i love to be around people and be outgoing. i'm a former cheerleader and basketball player. i go to north shore technical high school. i love to read, write, chat, play sports, you name it.

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16/f

So, one of my friends, let's call her June, has a huge crush on one of my guy friends, let's call him Ben. I told June, truthfully, that I was going to try and hook them up on a date, because she's desperate for his attention. And Ben and I are the kind of friends where we hug and smooch eachother on the cheek every day. So before I tell him about June yesterday morning, he leans over and kisses me on the mouth, and before I know it, his tongue's in my mouth, too. I was too surprised to react. I like Ben too, but he's such a flirt and since he's moving in december, all he wants is someone to fool around with, and that someone is me. But June really likes him. I know she deserves better, and I probably do too. I told June that he's a player and is only looking for sex, but she still likes him. Should I tell her he kissed me? What should I tell Ben? I need help!!!

If he's only looking for one thing, tell June what happened. She needs an example if you're going to tell her that she deserves better. If you tell her the whole story, starting with "oh, we were just talking and he kissed but instead of the usual way, he stuck his tongue in my mouth, etc." and if she doesn't believe you, then she obviously doesn't trust your honesty. But June doesn't need a player to break her heart. Ben needs to figure out what he's going to do by himself. Tell him that you're not interested in him "like that" and if he continues to follow you around and try to kiss you more, that's harrassment which doesn't look very good when he's looking for women. Hope this helped!


--Heather

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(Rating: 5) thanks so much. This really helped
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