Hello my name is Chrissie and a lot of people call me the latest Dear Abby. I give advice to anyone who needs it whether it be friends, family, or strangers. I've been giving advice on the internet for a little while now and just recently I've found this. So please feel free to ask me anything. I'm not just an advice columnist but I'm a friend :-).
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i'm 15...and yeah... so... ever since i met this person... she hates me... and she hangs out with my best friend. i know she's a pretty insecure person since she's overwieght and her mom was a whore(literally...i'm not tryin to be mean) and left her as a little kid. and my best friend feels sorry for her. i used to, but her past gives her no right 2 boss me around and treat me like shit. and it's only getting worse every day. i jus can't take it anymore, and i don't know what to do... i've tried avoiding her, but if i do that i can't ever hang with my friend b/c she's always hangin with that person. we play on the same basketball team at school, so during practice she'll boss me around about the stupidest things, and i don't want the coach yo see us fighting b/c try-outs are still going on, so i jus do what she says... i've tried telling my friend about it, but evertime i try i litterally get pushed out of the way by the person. all my other teamates tell me 2 forget them both... but i could never forget my best friend, i care about her 2 much, and she's goin through sum pretty sucky stuff right now (link)
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Hey. No matter what this girls backround is it gives her no right to boss you around like this. First of all I would talk to your b-ball coach about this. I know it sounds easier then it will be and you don't want to look like you're causing trouble but heck, you're deffinitely not. If someone is being this mean to you for no reason you need to confront the issue and tell someone.
I know it's hard but work up the guts or this problem will never end with her. Get the girls on the team to hang out with you more often but when you're around them don't talk about this girl or it will make you look bad. If they do just say yeah I don't know why she's such a mean person but whatever floats her boat. Laugh and change the subject. I know this may sound corney but it's the best option my friend.
As for your best friend try to get her alone no matter what. And if she doesn't go with you and lets this girl boss you around then I hate to say it but that's not a good friend at all. I know it may hurt at first but you will have to make new, nicer friends. If she does go along with you and stops hanging out with this girl slowly then great. She may have to stop her friendship with this girl slowly because she doesn't want this girl to be mean to her to so be prepared. If she continues to see this girl whether sneakily or not after seeing you get bossed around by her then she's not a friend. Hey, I hope this helped if even a little so please give me feedback my friend :-).
Chrissie
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