Hello my name is Chrissie and a lot of people call me the latest Dear Abby. I give advice to anyone who needs it whether it be friends, family, or strangers. I've been giving advice on the internet for a little while now and just recently I've found this. So please feel free to ask me anything. I'm not just an advice columnist but I'm a friend :-).
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Okay I put this in the category "Relationships -> Friendship" because I didnt know what else it would be classified as.
But lets get one thing straight,
the girl I'm going to talk about I am not friends with her.
Okay, well I was adopted and so was this girl, from the same place. And when we were in elementary school we tried to be friends, it didnt really work, she like lives for PITY, (because she was adopted).. and after we figured out it couoldnt work (well I figured it out)
we just stopped talking.
But now speed forward, to highschool.
She is bugging the crap out of me, my freshman year (last year) i felt bad for her, so yet again I befriended her, and she made it worse, she became freakishly clingy, and caused a LOT of drama. And i said I've had it and I'm not going ot be your friend. Not now anymore, or ever. And you cant convince me too.
I've talked ot school counsulars, but they dont know half of our past so they cant help.
Just know that, we always argued when we were friends, and it was unhealthy and I cant take the drama from her.
But I'm going into my sophmore year,
and she has been obsessing over me it seems. Like reading my comments on xanga ( i have a tracker, and shes not blocked so its not like she cant comment) so yeah. And its annoying, and she thinks we have some tie together since we're "both adopted" but therea re other pepole adopted at our school, from teh same place, but does she bug them? NO? so whats so special about me? She thinks of her adoption of being "abandonded" and thats why she acts eepressed and wants pity all the time.
But I mean she can get help, btu cant she leave me alone? I've even gone to see conuslars about her, but they all told me how i can treat her, and what to say so she will leave me alone. But my questions are:
WHY DOES SHE KEEP BUGGING ME?
WHAT IS HER PROBLEM?
And also she has a hard time letting go of things, like our past.
And I've had it, with her, I'm liable to i dont know what, But I've had it. please help.
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Hey. Wow this sounds pretty sick. Well first of all it does sound like this girl has an obsession and needs some serious help. For some reason she got it in her mind that she really wants to be friends with you. But if she's going to cause all this drama I don't blame you for being upset. Now to her it's probably become almost like a "game" to be obsessed with you and as you know that is not normal. This may be a physological problem that is going through her and she needs help. Just do whatever you can to stay away from her but to be honest if you're a little friendly it may make her stop obsessing and trying so hard to be you're friend. Don't be mean or anything because it will just make you look bad and make her continue to obsess. Also you should tell your mom and dad who adopted you about this and maybe they can talk about it to her mom and dad. I know this sounds embaressing but believe me, I deffinitely think it will make her embarressed and she will stop bugging you! I hope this helped at least a little and please give me feedback my friend :-).
Chrissie
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thank you so much.
your advice was very very good,
I just try not to talk to her,
because - if you show like any bit of kindness, she takes it as an invite tha ti want to be friends or something.
but thank you so much!!
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