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Q: Hi, I'm going into 10th grade 16/m- and school hasn't even started yet...
Well.. the harrassment has been going on since 4th grade...
Basically all the popular people and the majority of my class think that I'm a fag (like gay).. but I'm not.. I have a girlfriend of 6 months.. and we're really happy together...
I don't even act gay at all.. everyone just thinks I am.. and I think it's because most of my friends are girls.. but I don't understand why that would make me gay- because wouldn't that mean that I like hanging out with girls because they are nice to me??
I just feel like no one cares about me and everyone is making fun of me
Another thing.. I am one of the smartest people in the class (4.0 average).. and I always do good on tests.. do people make fun of me because they are jealous that I get good grades and they don't.. I mean I don't go around bragging about my grades.. people ask me what I got.. and I just tell them in a modest way...

I don't understand why everyone thinks I'm a homo.. when I'm not...

oh.. and on myspace- I put up a picture that was the one everyone does (upside down peace sign with big sunglasses).. so then one of the people who makes fun of me posts a comment about it saying "wow ur a homo" so i posted a comment back saying "i was making fun of myspace.. lol".. so then he posts regular comments saying stuff like "i wasn't kidding about the pic comment" and "everyone thinks you're a fag" and "we hate you"...

So that just made me think of how much my class despises me- and I don't even say anything mean to them.. I try being nice.. but they just aren't.. the only ones who actually care about me are my close friends.. and that's only like 10 people max. outta the 250-300 in my class...

Am I just worried about nothing?
Am I really that much of a loser?
Please don't say "go talk to a counselor" because I tried that in middle school and the counselor was really stupid about it
Please help!

sorry this was so long
Kids have started useing the word "gay" for name-calling all the time. But they don't mean it litterally. They just want to diss gay people AND diss you at the same time. So, it's definately not cool of them to be saying "gay" like it's a bad word. In fact, I'd probably throw something at them if I heard something like that. But that's just me, you shouldn't do that.

Anyway, the lesson here is that some people suck. These jerks that are being turds suck. Even if they were so great, there's no reason for them to be mean to someone. They probably do wish they could be hanging around the girls you know. Some people just don't know how to control themselves, but at least you can.

I suggest that you just stick to the friends you do have. Don't spend your time worring about some jerks who don't know how to be a good friend. School can be stressful because of all the people in it. Just remember that you wont be in there forever. If you just ignore the turds bugging you, they will probably get tired of wasting their time. And you're friends will be there for you when you need them.

Thanks a lot
but I actually think they think I'm gay... like they make stupid gay jokes when I'm around

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