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My mom pushes me with grades. She made me study all day for 5 days for one test, and I got a 77. Now I'm grounded for 2 weeks and have to study even harder and longer. I have no social life during the week and rarely on weekends because my mom always makes me study. I'm just not that smart. My first language is Chinese, so school in America is difficult and my mom doesn't care. She hit me with the textbook once because I didn't take notes like she told me to. My friends and I agree that I'm doing the best I can, and adding even more days of non-stop studying won't help. What do I do?

my first language is chinese too and i know exactly how you feel because my mom's like that too.

Aside from everything the advice columnist said before me, you should try finding a tutor or having a friend who knows the subject very well help you. And if you dont get things you learn in class, you should always ask your teacher. i'm sure he or she would be glad to explain it to you. Getting study books might help too or having a study group you can work with. Before tests, see if you and a group of friends could get together to have a study group so that your friends can help you study for your tests.

Dont stay that you're 'not that smart'; under all the pressure your mom is putting you through, it's hard to work very well. Being pressured so much wont help you and only make you feel more frustrated.

Your mom also needs to understand that life in america is different from China. You just dont hit your kids because they are disobedient or dont get good grades. The expectations in america are different too and your mom needs to know that. You're trying your best but she thinks you can do better. Also, your mom needs to understand that it's not all about school and getting good grades. Talk to her or have a teacher you're close to talk to her. Try to work out a study plan with her, like compromise or something. Offer that if she lets you go see a movie or something on the weekend, you'll study an extra hour or something. Dont let your mom control your life by forcing you to study 24/7. It's your life not hers and she needs to know that.

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