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Hello All, I am counsellor with over 12 years experience specializing in parenting, families, youth and mental health. I answer questions in a blunt and straightforward way so if you are looking for coddling or really touchy feely type advice thats not me I provide real solutions for your problems and concrete suggestions in other words I tell you the plain truth I don't sugarcoat.
I am really worried these days with the easy access to the internet and all the false information that is out there and the fact that people believe it!! So please ask first. I don't claim to have all the answers but I can claim that NOTHING will shock me you can try though :)
I look forward to hearing you thoughts and questions.
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everytime i masturbate [which isn't often], I feel so much shame.
I'm 14 and I just feel like masturbation is wrong - yet I can't help it when I have hormones. What should I do? Should I keep masturbating and keep it a secret from my mom, or just stop because I feel ashamed?
Any person over the age of 16-17 who says they do not or have never masturbated are LYING!!! Every person on the face of the earth has tried it. It is not wrong it is totally normal. Look at it this way if it were wrong why would it feel so good and be so natural???
If you feel that your mom would not understand then you don't have to tell her, if you are in the privacy of your own room then it really is no one's business but your own. I would hope though that if you have a good relationship with your mom that you talk to her and be open and honest she would much rather be the one to talk to you about this then having someone else do the job for her!! Trust me I am a mom!
Hope this helps.
(Rating: 5) Thankyou so much you have no idea how much you helped me. I came here and I felt shame about it, but hearing it from a mom makes me feel a lot better about it rather than hearing just from some teenagers. Now I don't feel any shame and it's really affecting my mood. I'm much happier now. Thankyou again!