I have a lot of life experience and a background in education and some counselling. The following are quotes from friends and family regarding advice I have given them in the past:
"You are so direct and to the point but not harsh."
"You have a lot of wisdom."
"You always know how to cut right to the heart of the matter."
I believe that I tell it like it is but I am also senstive to other's feelings and I am able to see things from various perspectives. Hopefully, I can help you too.
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I am seriously getting stressed here! My best friend told me yesterday that she was through with life and she wanted to kill herself! I've been through this before with another one of my friends. It turned out that that friend wasn’t going to commit suicide she was just really depressed but I had told someone. Now it’s happening again with a different friend so I told my mom this time. I let her read the conversation we had and then my mom was just like "All I see here is a very angry child trying to get attention." I don’t see it that way though. My mom had said that out of the 100% of people that say there going to commit suicide, 98% don’t and 2% do. My friend said that sometime before high school is over she's going to kill herself. I have 4 years to convince her not to, but I tried a ton yesterday. She said its not helping and that I shouldn’t be her friend anymore. I love being her friend and I understand that she's trouble from home life (her mother doesn’t trust her!
Her brother doesn’t like her, and her dad abused her but has stopped). What should I do? I really don’t want my friend to kill herself but she doesn’t understand that! (link)
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I agree with you; her threat to kill herself should be taken very seriously. Assuming your mother is right and only 2% of people who say they are going to commit suicide actually attempt it, that means that there is a 2% chance your friend could do it. It seems to me that any percentage is high when it comes to suicide.
I would recommend talking to an adult outside of her family; they do not sound very trustworthy. I think your school counsellor would be a good choice, or you can call a Crisis Line (in the phonebook) in your area. Crisis Lines are very informative and will know exactly what steps should be taken.
It sounds like your friend seriously needs to work with a some type of psych-worker. I would strongly encourage her to also talk about the abuse with a professional - the abuse should have, and still should, be reported to the Police or Child Protective Services. I can assure you that it is a major contributer to her suicidal thoughts.
This sounds like a very serious issue that would be overwhelming for you to try and deal with on your own. You are clearly a true friend. I hope your friend gets some help.
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Thankss a lot JC. I wish more people would take her seriously.
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