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I am counsellor with over 12 years experience specializing in parenting, families, youth and mental health. I answer questions in a blunt and straightforward way so if you are looking for coddling or really touchy feely type advice thats not me I provide real solutions for your problems and concrete suggestions in other words I tell you the plain truth I don't sugarcoat.

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General question. I would like to hear everyone's thoughts on the true nature of forgiveness:whether forgiveness is possible, or whether it is a man-made delusion. Any concrete examples are much appreciated.

Personally I am a strong believer that forgivness is possible. Its that forgetting is not possible. For example in my line of work there have been numerous occasions that I have been assaulted sometimes including breaking of bones, now I forgive these kids because violence is often all they know, BUT I never forget that they assaulted me, I keep it in mind and try to make sure that I am never off my guard again.

Forgiveness is a choice not an automatic and it is not a choice that everyone makes.

Hope this helps.

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Thanks for the personal examples, plus the sidelight on "forgetting". I was raised Catholic, and "forgive AND forget" was a daily mantra at my elementary school: I always felt a failure for not living up tp this ideal. But as your example so clearly and fairly showed, "forgetting" can be both imposssible and undesirable.
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