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So I have these two friends, Shelly and Gina. You see, when I hang out with Shelly and Gina separately, we have alot of fun and there's no problems. But, whenever I hang out with them together, like all 3 of us, i totally feel like the third wheel and they leave me out. They're always walking away without me, hugging each other, and telling each other they're each others` best friends. Sometimes it feels like they don't even know I'm there! For example, we were shopping at Old Navy awhile ago and they kept trying on the same things and telling each other what to wear, but when I said I was gonna try something on or I liked something, they either totally ignored me or walked away. Also, people always seem to associate them with each other and invite both of them to things, but not me. I'm pretty sure Shelly is doing it purposely, but Gina probably isn't. This is really making me feel bad. And it's not like I can move on and hang out with my other friends, or hang out with them separetely all the time, because i take dance with them 5 days a week and that means we're all together ALL year long. Any advice on what I should do? Thanks. (link)
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What I believe is happening , just as you hang out with each one separately at times they also are hanging out with each other some times without you, and this is why it seems like they have such a bond when you're present .
Inspite of you all friendship you are still different people in personality etc. and I am saying this to say even if you all of you are sensitive in nature but you handle it differently from one another
for example :
your friend who you think is purposely ignoring you;I believe she's aware that you spend time with the other friend without her and she has taken an offense by this and therefore her way of getting back at you is by treating you as if you're not there; and the other friend she's obviously giving more attention may not be aware of the game; I am sharing this with you for the sake of understanding why this is happening to you and to open your eyes .
My advice to you is to sit them both down and explain to them the way they make you feel when you're all together; and let them know that whenever you spent time with each one one on one, you wasn't doing this to hurt the other, and you can go a step further by saying that each of you do have a right to spend time alone with either friend individually if you choose to however what is inappropriate and unjust is when a group of friends get together and one is being ignored this is unexcepted. and then let them know if you all gonna continue hanging out those things that's causing havoc needs to be exit out .
Because I am a minister / spiritual advisor my best advice would have been to advice you to show yourself more friendly by communicating more when you all are together but the problem is not your communication , it is the absent of comunication from those around you and with this being said the above paragraph is my best advice due to the circumstance . remember
forgiveness + forgiveness = more forgiveness
God Bless You
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