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i have this friend and we are really close shes one of my bestfriends and i have a feeling that she might be racist against caucasian people because like all of her friends are black and she like only has one caucasian friend and everything to her has to be black and it really bothers me im colored myself and i have friends of all different racis and when someonelse is another race or color i dont notice it until she brings up the color or race that they are and it really buggs me because it kinda insults me because i am a little bit caucasian and my family is mixed of different colors and i asked my friend if she was racist and she said no and got mad that i asked that and she also doesnt like black and white couples she thinks theres something wrong with that but honestly i dont see anything wrong with it and i really dont know what else to do she says she's not but i think that she might be a little bit racist but not a whole lot so what should i do because i dont wont to have a friend like that and i also dont want to stop being friends wit her


Racism is something that is learned, usually at home. Are her parents maybe believers that inter-racial dating is wrong? Do they not want her to have or do they not welcome different races in their home? This could be the way she is raised and that is really hard to fight against what you have been taught is "right".

If I was you I would simply agree to disagree with her. By this I mean allow her her beliefs and when she says/does stuff that you think are racist tell her that you think that is wrong, and explain that she is disrespecting your family when she says things like this. She is going to realize sooner or later that multi-culturalism is the way of the world. She will have to work, learn and be with all kinds of people throughout her life and learn how to get along with everyone.

Hope this helps.

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(Rating: 5) thank u soo much but the thing is that her mom loves all colors
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