I only joined this because I realized that all of my friends come to me for advice. I have two gifts: the gift of gab, and the gift of brutal honesty. I am trying to remember that there is a difference between brutal honesty and bitchiness. I am really cute, relatively intelligent, and sort of funny, so I think I am in at least the top 25 percent of the general population of humans. My advice might be the stuff you don't want to hear, but it is probably the stuff that you need to know.
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Hi,
For a long time in my life I've felt like people just can't tell me the truth about things. Whether it's my family, friends, people at businesses, or just some random person I meet on the street. I feel like everyone is afraid to tell me the truth because they either think I can't handle it or I'll get angry and upset. Do they feel ashamed to admit something to me? I can handle it when I'm told the raw truth about something, even if it's something that could potentially hurt me. But perhaps I'm not showing people that I want to hear the truth. Is there a way I can let people know that they can be honest with me and I'm not going to be angry with them if they are? Also how do I let them know without saying "I think you are lying. Go on, tell me the truth".
Any kind of remotely helpful advice would be apreaciated. Thanks! (link)
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Have you noticed that the few people who are blatantly honest are always deemed "bitches" and "asshats"? Honesty is something that is difficult for a lot of people to deal with. Generally speaking, people are frightened of the truth. I'm sure it's not you. I'm sure it's the general public. With that being said, all you can do is be honest, which would result in you telling all of the dishonests that they need to be truthful. Start treating people the way you want to be treated (whoa. that was a little too cliche, wasn't it?), and hopefully some of your honesty will rub off on them. I do apologize for the vague answer but it's hard to be specific with a topic that is as broad as general honesty.
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That's good advice, thanks! I do treat people well, but so many times I just get spit in the face. But you're probably right in saying that it's not just me, people really are afraid of the truth.
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