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I am counsellor with over 12 years experience specializing in parenting, families, youth and mental health. I answer questions in a blunt and straightforward way so if you are looking for coddling or really touchy feely type advice thats not me I provide real solutions for your problems and concrete suggestions in other words I tell you the plain truth I don't sugarcoat.

I am really worried these days with the easy access to the internet and all the false information that is out there and the fact that people believe it!! So please ask first. I don't claim to have all the answers but I can claim that NOTHING will shock me you can try though :)

I look forward to hearing you thoughts and questions.

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i have this cousin who is 15 and im 13 and he is so hot and he has been checking me out and i was wondering (we are blood related) what would happen if we made out or worse.

First of all this is not incest as many people have replied. Incest while can be between blood relatives most professionals don't count cousins. Also are you first cousins? If not then the situation is different. As for all these people going about deformed children well a. you are 13 and I assume not planning on kids in the near future, second the actual risk of genetic deformities while increased is not a definite.

If you just make out nothing is going to happen, I would ask the question though why would you start something like this when you know the outcome will probably end up hurting you? Also you are both right in the middle of the biggest hormonal change in your life, so everything seems alot more attractive then it will in a few years.

I would take some space and think about the not only the pros and cons but about how would you feel about yourself after if anything did happened? I would also maybe talk to someone you really trust about this and have them help you decide whats right.

Hope this helps and if you want to talk further you can contact me.

As per your comment - just don't get too caught up in illusion so you miss all the great guys you could be with in reality!!! :)

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(Rating: 5) omg thanks so much! i have changed my mind. Just because i cant do anything doesnt mean i cant fantisize, right? Thanks so much!
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