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Truthfully, most kids who claim to have had sex really haven't. They're all trying to fit in just like you.
Look, you can only have your first time once. Do not rush it because I'm here to tell you from experience that you WILL regret it. I don't know what has gone wrong that young kids just cannot understand how special and precious sex and virginity are.
Sex, for one, isn't going to be anywhere near what you are probably expecting. It's painful and awkward the first time. Sometimes the first few times. It's not all that uncommon for alot of women to never or rarely experience orgasm from intercourse. I'm not saying sex is BAD. I'm just giving you a more realistic view.
Honestly, if you aren't emotionally and mentally mature enough to handle sex, it's going to suck. Period. And it seems to me, that you are looking to have sex just to impress a few friends who are probably still virgins themselves. And if not, who cares? It's just sex. It doesn't validate you. It doesn't make you cooler. It doesn't make you more mature. It doesn't make you more worldly.
There's something about sharing the experience with someone you love very much when you are ready to do so that makes it incredible. Even though it's awkward. Even though it might be a little painful.
Do not have sex simply because he wants to. Every guy WANTS to. That doesn't mean he's going to get it anytime he damn well wants it. He'll live if you say no. And if he wants to bitch or get angry about it, dump him because he is only after the ass of a young girl he knows he can manipulate.
If it makes you feel better, keep lying about having had sex. It really doesn't matter anyway. We've all done it at some point. Or most of us anyway. But keep your virginity until you are ready to lose it.
I know you'll do whatever it is you want to do regardless of what I tell you. I'm just trying to put some sense into your head as one girl who has been in your position before.
If you're still going to have sex, get on birth control. Use a condom. Educate yourself on your body and how it works.
There really aren't any tips that will make it easier for you if you're going into it with hesitations, second thoughts, and fear.
--Just something to think about...
You were the center of attention in a group of kids who had supposedly had sex...for having sex. Don't you find that odd? That they would have so much fascination with that? I'm telling you...it's probably because most of them have not had sex and want to know what it's like.
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