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My husband and I are divorcing over the fact that I wasn't a virgin when we got married, 5 years ago. Back when we were dating, I'd cheated on him and fooled around with another guy. I hated myself for it so I couldn't bring myself to tell him. Now one of my friends told him and he got so mad. I'd tried to explain why I didn't want to bring it up, but he was too hurt to care. We've tried to talk about it several times, but it only made both of us hurt worse. So now we're getting a divorce and we've agreed not to see or speak to each other anymore, which sucks because we know we're still in love with each other. It's just too painful... As if that's not bad enough, I just found out I'm pregnant. What the hell do I do? I don't know if I could contact him even if I wanted too. I'm scared. Please give me words of wisdom! (link)
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You have to tell him about the baby (assuming it's his) but never ever expect to get back together or build a relationship for the sake of a child. It leads to nothing but unhappiness and resentment, between you and your husband and you child will feel this as well as they grow up. I'm sorry your marriage is breking up, it must be so hard, and the baby will make it much harder. Maybe you guys can work it out, that is certainly possible and optimal, but not just because of the baby. Have you considered seeing a counselor?
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I like your point of view.Thank you for the advice.
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